Comment on Anon asks out a girl

• TheTechnician27@lemmy.world ⁨15⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  No, walking up to and interrupting a group at a bar after listening to them for three hours, telling them you’ve been listening, then asking one of them to dinner next week like they need saving by you is extremely rude. No one’s saying you aren’t allowed to talk to strangers; you just shouldn’t be this goddamn weird and intrusive about it.

  “How are you supposed to find a partner?”

  Get to know the strangers first in a capacity whose end goal isn’t a date, then ask them out when you know them somewhat? Or ask a stranger out at a place and in a context where it’s expected they might be open to it? Anyway, I’m going to go ask out random women on the street, because it’s not rude; I mean fuck, man, how else can you find a partner in this economy?

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  • calcopiritus@lemmy.world ⁨14⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    He wasn’t listening to the conversation for 3 hours. He was seated there for 3 hours, and then he overheard a part of a conversation.

    Overhearing is not the same as actively listening. Talking in public is public. They are at a bar, which is an extremely social place, it is normal for strangers to join conversations.

    And what place and context is more appropriate than a bar for asking someone out? It has been the de facto place exactly for that purpose for millenia.

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    • TheTechnician27@lemmy.world ⁨13⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      The phrasing heavily implies that they worked up their nerve over the course of three hours. And I’m not assuming they were attentatively listening; what’s problematic is that they leveraged (unsuccessfully) what they overheard to swoop in like a creepy vulture and try to pick this woman up while she was just trying to have a nice time with her friends.

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      • calcopiritus@lemmy.world ⁨13⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        Idk why you are choosing to imagine anon like that. But that is a pretty normal and socially acceptable behaviour in a bar

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