You get the difference though, right? Like, it’s one thing if you’re going out to a place known for mingling and you hook up with someone. It is a completely different thing if you’re at a place to hang out with friends and a complete stranger saunters up to say he’s been eavesdropping on you.
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a4ng3l@lemmy.world 17 hours agoHaaaaa the new generations… ya know once upon a times this was standard procedure right? Not so long ago even. Sometimes you didn’t even talk before furiously kissing someone on the dance floor and discussions came waaaaaay later on if they ever came.
Alabaster_Mango@lemmy.ca 17 hours ago
a4ng3l@lemmy.world 17 hours ago
Nhaaaaa when going to bars or youth places was still a thing it was exactly like that… you went out with them to smoke, asked / give some lighter and voila. We had to rely on so many tricks when tinder was not a thing I suspect you don’t realise yourself :-)
Alabaster_Mango@lemmy.ca 10 hours ago
you went out with them to smoke, asked / give some lighter and voila.
So you didn’t just barge into their group conversation. Cause that would be weird right?
You should also give up on this whole “wizend internet elder” schtick. I was also going to bars and youth places before Tinder, and behaviour like that of the 4Chan guy would definitely be called out as strange and unwelcome.
a4ng3l@lemmy.world 10 hours ago
Same same really. And the lighter was one of the least obnoxious trick really.
Can’t help with the personality though, that’s just who I am. Feel free to click on « block » if it hurts.
protist@mander.xyz 17 hours ago
This still happens, but you also still need to be suave about it, which anon was not.
TheTechnician27@lemmy.world 17 hours ago
“Hey, I heard you talking about wanting to date. I’ve been feeling the same way and wanted to see if I could get us a couple drinks?”
That’s still bad because this is still pretty weird, but just be a bit casual about it instead of: “M’lady most fine, I heard of your plight and wish to save you. Please allow me take you out to dinner next week.” She’s with her friends, sure, but it sounds like she’s been bringing down their night by complaining, so they probably wouldn’t mind if she said “yes”.
Dettweiler42@lemmy.dbzer0.com 17 hours ago
I’ve been out of the game for a while, but I would assume a much better starting point would be buying her a drink. Ask the bartender what she’s having, then offer to buy one for her. “Here’s another drink ma’am, courtesy of that guy over there.”
TheTechnician27@lemmy.world 16 hours ago
Yeah, this is what you should ideally do in this scenario if you want a date. My comment was starting from “assume you’ve already walked up to her table; how do you even possibly salvage this?”