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It's okay to be vulnerable on the internet every now and then. Even on joke subs.

And to address your comment... This is something a lot of men misconstrue in general. They think that most women will want the 6'4, ripped, rich/tattooed/etc. guy. Which, to be fair, is true to some women, after all, people have types and feel physical attraction primarily on physical characteristics.

But that's not the whole reality. Thing is, men tend to be incredibly shallow most of the time, and completely ignore what women want. This makes the dating pool too, quite shallow.

Here's a list that will guarantee success with ~80% of women:

be genuine
don't be creepy
have basic hygiene - brush your teeth, swap underwear daily, clean your clothes regularly, don't stink, but also don't overuse cologne (it's often taken as an attempt to cover body odour instead of addressing its source)
don't be a creep
pay attention to her. Listen to what she says, actually be interested in what she's talking about. Read some romance books, written by women, to see what kind of interaction they crave. Just don't go too deep into booktok recommendations because those can be somewhat dark, and let me tell you, most women will NOT like you breaking into their home wearing a mask, stabbing their bed with a hunting knife then telling them to ride the handle of said knife...
being creepy is a no-no
treat her as an equal in most cases while taking moments to be chivalrous
basically just treat them as a human being instead of a weird puzzle that rewards you with sex if you solve it. A lot of men do this and it's super annoying. The goal on any single date is to get to know each other and have a good time. Sex should be an afterthought.
Do. Not. Be. A. Creep.
try to be funny without it feeling forced, over the top, or too offensive.
I don't know how to emphasise this any further but creepy is a big no-no. Don't be it.

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D_C@sh.itjust.works ⁨20⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
Nice, some tips to follow. I’m in.
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“Don’t be a creep”
I’m out

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peopleproblems@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago
I want to add that some people are completely unaware that they are being creepy. Others are entirely aware, and I don’t understand how they dont realize they’re gonna get got one day.

You are a creep if:

You like to get closer than you realistically should. Ask to close the distance if you were originally sitting apart, then let the other person get comfortable. If they adjust their distance, don’t get any fucking closer than that.

There are a lot of things you might want to say sober, but don’t. Probably a good idea to pay attention to these things if you have liquor in your system and notice when you no longer have control over that. If you don’t notice, maybe it’s better not to drink and rethink your life.

Don’t fucking grab, sniff, tickle, or seductively eye the other person. Just don’t. Grow up.

Don’t go diving through their social media like you need to learn all about them before you meet. Chances are they know exactly what is public, and they intend that public information to be a different person than they really are.

If you don’t know something about them, ask. If they don’t give you an answer, stop fucking asking. God. They don’t want to tell you.

If it involves sex, and you’re in public, don’t talk about it. That’s creepy.

If you ever receive a inconclusive answer, that’s a hint to back the fuck off that discussion.

There’s too much to list, but those are like a bunch I’ve seen.
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- Angelevo@feddit.nl ⁨20⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  Excellent general rules; culture provides differences.
  
  Take some time to consider how the other party is feeling, empathize, use your senses. If you have trouble doing so, use your imagination. Link behavioral traits to emotions. Behave accordingly. Feel it out.
  
  For many people, all of this comes natural. The others can learn by reading the cues and responses. It is hard work, yet valuable as it allows you to connect on a different level.
  
  We are complex creatures.
  
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