Comment on Anon gets his life in order

• untorquer@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  You can be blind to the problems you’re facing for a long time. For me it was a combination of her perpetuating abusive behaviors from her youth and me not understanding boundaries and my own avoidance. Outside of that it was right around 2020 so i had a lot of distractions and instability. It took me a long time to realize that the relationship had these problems.

  My point is that taking so long to end it had to do with anything except a relationship being a requirement. I do want to be in a relationship but for intimacy, solidarity, vulnerability, company etc… The status doesn’t play into it at all.

  If those don’t make sense to you then that’s just as normal. If you’re confused by them then look into aromanticism.

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  • WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today ⁨17⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Nah, I have been AeroAce for a long time, I realized that I can’t really depend on other people, and that outside opinions don’t really matter.

    I have notes specifically for what I think I did wrong, and will ask others as needed. Otherwise, time and energy are the only real limits.

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    • untorquer@lemmy.world ⁨15⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      No one is entitled to another human being. Relationships are about mutual interest.

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      • WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today ⁨10⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        Exactly! And I see myself as especially unworthy of other people.

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