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raspberriesareyummy@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

• Lemminary@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

  I’ve met a handful of straight men who were not afraid to be perceived as gay and humorously played along. They were usually the coolest guys in the room. Hell, the confidence alone made them more attractive, but I don’t go there.

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  • mika_mika@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    I’m a queer enby and I do the little circle below the waist gesture, with my hand, to get my friend’s (my infinitely heteronormative friend) attention and then tell him because he looked he’s gay now. This is something the cis-boys in highschool used to joke around about because being gay was THE WORST thing you could be perceived as. I think it’s harmless with my friend though he does get flustered that he’s not gay and it’s kinda cute.

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    • raspberriesareyummy@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

      You must be young still. I don’t deny that - as you say - in school being perceived as gay was kind of bad / an insult, but that was us growing up in an atmosphere of toxic masculinity. I have matured beyond that and would laugh at such a prank.

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      • mika_mika@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

        Oh I just started my 30s I never did it as a teen personally, just witnessed others do it in toxic masculine form and now I my adulthood find it funny to emulate it towards someone who might have done it seriously in their teens for the laughs.

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  • raspberriesareyummy@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    There’s nuances to everything. My oldest “heteronormative” friend and I sometimes call each other honey and blow a kiss into the air, without being serious about it nor meaning it to mock people.

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