Comment on Anon is forever alone
phdepressed@sh.itjust.works 1 day agoLife is a lot more than suffering. There is a joy in human connections. Friends, family, partners, and children.
It’s alright if partners and/or children aren’t for you (even family) but its weirder to be entirely unable to empathize with a desire for human connections and life goals (which vary).
finitebanjo@piefed.world 1 day ago
I understand desire for human connections and life goals, I just don't understand envy for marriage and children. Those should result from a good thing going on, not be a primary motivator.
phdepressed@sh.itjust.works 1 day ago
I mean the good thing going is already implied via the years before.
Life goals vary by person. These may not be the entirety of their life goals but a representation of one that is attainable to many. A strong and happy connection with your partner to the point they desire a child with you enough to go through pregnancy and childbirth and raising a child is not shallow
Very few people reach celebrity or make noticeable impact. Participation in minor community improvement is about as much as most people manage and its ok to be content with that.
finitebanjo@piefed.world 20 hours ago
I don't include procreation, no matter how "healthy and proper" a relationship, on the same level as noticeable impact or becoming a part of recorded culture, nor even at the level of minor community improvement.
I'm a consequentialist, short term satisfaction or pleasures are of zero inherent value unless they aid in the production of longterm gains or advancements for all people.
It's almost like people expect medal for deciding not to use a condom.
phdepressed@sh.itjust.works 17 hours ago
Raising a kid done right is a societal gain/benefit and can help those societal advancements. No one here is asking for a medal but the entire point of empathy at large is a recognition that people experience and feel differently than you do about certain things. That includes children.