Comment on Discussion Thread đŚ Friday 17 October 2025
melbaboutown@aussie.zone â¨3⊠â¨days⊠agoYikes. Sounds like girlypop needs to join a coding forum or something for the technical help, address her struggles with the teacher, and not say such things to you.
Friends can support of course but I feel like this lady could bring you down with her
LowExperience2368@aussie.zone â¨3⊠â¨days⊠ago
Yep. She said she doesnât have time to see a psych, even though her uni offers them for free and it only takes an hour. Sheâs used AI to code most things these days, saying that itâs the processes that she needs to know, not the actual code itselfâŚ
melbaboutown@aussie.zone â¨3⊠â¨days⊠ago
Yeah⌠You seem like a good friend but please take care of yourself here and watch out. Donât be the only friend she goes to and maybe distance yourself a bit.
Sorry if this is unwanted advice. Itâs just in my twenties I had friends who were chaotic and insisted on using me as the go to while refusing to let me link them with more appropriate supports, and I burned out so hard I had to drop them. Then I was the one not coping.
Assuming sheâs able bodied and not incapacitated by her mental health your friend has choices here.
Even if theyâre not something she wants to do, such as deferring for a while, withdrawing/failing and retaking the course, changing courses, or withdrawing/failing and going into work instead. Iâm not sure how everything works now but she has choices.
If sheâs both physically disabled and her mental health is unmanaged/unmanageable she might actually be fucked but also you have the right to maintain boundaries and your own wellbeing.
LowExperience2368@aussie.zone â¨3⊠â¨days⊠ago
Thanks Melba. I have linked her to appropriate supports and been encouraging. A voice of reason and self-compassion if you will. Now I will be disengaging to work on my own assignment due soon.
Seagoon_@aussie.zone â¨3⊠â¨days⊠ago
sheâs a drama queen
LowExperience2368@aussie.zone â¨3⊠â¨days⊠ago
Absolutely
melbaboutown@aussie.zone â¨3⊠â¨days⊠ago
If you donât have a lot of choices due to the service being subsidised some providers can be terrible. Thereâs also a shortage plus high demand.
But a lot of them do Zoom now. I think she just doesnât want to. Itâs easier to demand informal supports from a friend to just vent
LowExperience2368@aussie.zone â¨3⊠â¨days⊠ago
She is a student and has access to counselling and psychology through her uni. I sent her all the links. I think itâs all a mental thing for her, like it is for me.