Ok… so someone finds out you’re gay. Figures to themselves you’re probably having it hard, with all the LGBTQ+ hate thats going around, and are making sure to treat you nicer because of it -> bigots.
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danhab99@programming.dev 3 weeks ago
The definition of bigotry is someone who’s behavior is a function of what they know about you. If people change their behavior to treat me better or worse because they learn (for example) that I’m gay then I don’t want them at all.
AnanasMarko@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
faythofdragons@slrpnk.net 3 weeks ago
Not the guy you’re responding to, but…
maybe let some things slide that would irk them otherwise
As a non-straight person, I don’t want yesmen either. If I’m being an idiot, I want my friends to tell me nicely that I’m doing the stupid, I don’t want them to ignore it because “oh she’s gay, I don’t want to hurt her feelings”.
danhab99@programming.dev 3 weeks ago
and are making sure to treat you nicer because of it
That’s a bad thing
If I could trust that this is the reason behind a person’s behavior then we wouldn’t be having this conversation. But there are so many potentially malicious reasons to be extra sugary sweet to someone different. Plus it’s infantalizing to be “treated nicer” like I’m not a kid. I don’t want everyone to change their tone I just want to participate and have fun. If political issues were bothering me then I’d go to a political group that centers my lgbt-ness, that’s my choice
tooclose104@lemmy.ca 3 weeks ago
No it’s not.
From the Oxford dictionary:
obstinate or unreasonable attachment to a belief, opinion, or faction, in particular prejudice against a person or people on the basis of their membership of a particular group.
From the Collins dictionary:
Bigotry is the possession or expression of strong, unreasonable prejudices or opinions.
From vocabulary.com:
A bigot is someone who doesn’t tolerate people of different backgrounds or opinions. Someone who tells a racist joke might be labeled a bigot. A bigot can also be someone who refuses to accept other ideas, as in politics.