I agree with this. For me, so so much integral growth happens between ages 20 and 26-28 or so, and I don’t really think people in general know who they are or what they want in life until then. Not true for everyone of course. All the people I know who married young are either divorced or super unhappy though so it may skew my perception a bit.
Comment on Anon dates a 19 y/o
Soup@lemmy.world 1 day agoA friend of friend I’ve met a couple times is into me. They’re 23 and I’m 30 and I still don’t have an interest. They’re perfectly nice, but…
I think after 28-30 it starts to really not matter that much but before that even smallish gaps can be pretty questionable. And any dude that would consider someone their age to be a “hag” probably largely dates younger because mature, experienced women can tell they’re really just garbage man-children.
janewaydidnothingwrong@lemmy.world 21 hours ago
Ashenlux@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 day ago
Oh 100%. I knew a guy that was my age, that was always trying to date younger, because no women our age would deal with his bullshit.
SoleInvictus@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 day ago
For real. When I was 24, I dated a 19 year old for like two weeks. They were really nice and interesting, but ultimately the age gap proved to make a relationship unviable. I can’t even imagine a nine year gap at that age. Gross.
Revan343@lemmy.ca 1 day ago
It’s a green-text, we knew that from the get-go
Soup@lemmy.world 1 day ago
Yes, but even people who don’t go online much, even people I actually do care about in my own life, still fall into that category. The people I care about tend to be much nicer and wouldn’t call someone a hag but they do lack a certain level of maturity. Green-text makes it near certain but it’s a “not all rectangles are squares” situation.
stevedice@sh.itjust.works 14 hours ago
Oh, but all rectangles are squares if we shoehorn a non-standard metric (this comment has absolutely nothing to do with the thread and it’s just a dumb math joke).