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Venus_Ziegenfalle@feddit.org 1 day ago
These days I think about past situations as little as possible. I used to be convinced you need to pick that shit apart in order to process it but I’m starting to think the opposite might be true.
Yea, embrace it. Think about the most ridiculous things you’ve ever heard other people say. Oh, you can only remember maybe 5? 10? Realize that the one dumb thing you said is most likely not on the list.
And if it is? Congratulations you made an imprint on someone else.
I can remember way more than 5-10. :(
Forgetting is second only to acceptance, yeah. Left to my own devices I’ll just fixate on the past, replaying the scenes and emotions over and over like that one Black Mirror episode.
I wish I didn’t spend so much of my time in the past.
I used to be the same. It starts with the conscious decision to remain focused on the present. Meditating also helps.
Thanks, that is genuinely nice to hear. Was there any particular type of meditation that worked for you?
saimen@feddit.org 13 hours ago
What I noticed is that I really only remember the bad things when I am in a bad mood and only in a good mood I am even able to remember the good stuff. So yeah it’s probably more helpful to bring yourself into a good mood right now then wear yourself down even more.
Yet, I do believe in depth psychology helping overcome childhood trauma. But it is not working in the way most people think by talking about it but by subconsciously reenacting it with the therapeut in a way we can solve it emotionally because the therapeut reacts in a better way than the primary caregiver did in the traumatic experience.