Comment on Discussion Thread đș Saturday 6 September 2025
Seagoon_@aussie.zone âš6â© âšdaysâ© agoIt seems to me you havenât spoken to her frankly about how her behaviour and circumstances are impacting her and her friendships.
Talk to her, listen to her. Maybe she needs a little help, offer some.
And it seems to me she might be late for a good reason. ( you saying no good reason is judgy, and you make me wonder how people think about me because I rest in bed far too often to heal my back ) She sounds like she is very stressed and not coping.
She likes to play games, have you offered to play games with her? You just ask her along to do the things you like.
So before anything, reach out and meet her on her own territory. If you want a friend be a friend.
ignore the cigarettes, I think you are being judgy again,
LowExperience2368@aussie.zone âš6â© âšdaysâ© ago
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I think I have met her on her own territory. I make her pick the time. She has never shown up at the time she picks. I have spoken to her about how this annoys me. She apologises and says she will do better next time, but has not. I agree, I think I do need to have a proper sit down conversation with her. Reasons she has been late include the game she plays having a new update (she sent me a screenshot of her playing the game at the time I was waiting for her at the train station, after I messaged her asking if she was on her way), and sleeping in due to her wack sleeping schedule. She has even said herself that her sleep schedule is not conducive to the demands of daily life. You resting your back sounds like a pretty valid reason to me. Iâm sure that being the person you are, would inform people you were going to meet up with about this or give them a heads up if you were going to be late when you could. Iâm sorry for making you feel guilty, and I hope that people arenât judging you for resting in bed. She doesnât really have any other friends that she meets up with regularly besides me. Anyone else she sees is because of classes or are online friends that she has never met in person. Like a lot of us, she lost most people from high school except for me and one of our other friends who lives interstate. I think she may have ADHD, and so do I, but that doesnât mean she canât be on time at all. I think the next time I see her, I will tell her I will only be available for a particular amount of time, based on the time sheâs set, and if sheâs not available then, then we will not hang out. She has a procrastination problem with studies similar to mine and that stresses her out. She doesnât care for cleanliness, and I agree, I shouldnât judge her based on that. We were raised differently. Also the cigarettes. Not my business. That was judgy. I commented on that to give context about her shit living situation. Most of our hangouts involve doing things she wants to do. The last few times weâve hung out, we have played games together. I am terrible at video games, and she has outright told me that she wants me to play games with her so that she gets matched with easier players. I always go with her to get food, even when Iâm not hungry. I go with her to run errands, wait in food outlets whilst she orders food at odd times, and when she meets up with people to buy and sell collectibles. Pretty much everything we do together is something we both want to do, mixed in with things she wants to do.