Comment on Why do narcissists have such fragile egos?
Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world 2 days agoI’m with Photuris, it’s a much more complicated game than you might expect, and they’ve been playing it their whole lives.
Rule #1 is to preserve your image at all times. Which means not flipping out in public.
Rule #2 is that everything is someone else’s fault. Which means if you call them out in public, they will cry and ask why you are so mean to them. Instant sympathy, and you look like the asshole, and assuming you yourself are not a narcissist, you’ll probably feel like an asshole too.
Most likely, if they really are a narcissist, you’ll try your test, think they aren’t, and look really bad in front of everyone.
TranquilTurbulence@lemmy.zip 1 day ago
Thanks for the advice. I better be cautious with this one.
orgrinrt@lemmy.world 20 hours ago
May I just ask, out of pure curiosity, who is this person to you? I mean to understand why you care enough to conduct any kind of tests or whatever.
If they’re bad company, simply avoid and disengage. Why waste energy and time in fragile attempts at proving something that isn’t exactly provable with ordinary means? Like why even think about all this in the first place?
If it’s personal in that you feel slighted by them, I’d still recommend not engaging in weird tests or similar behavior. You’ll ultimately learn nothing useful and will have spent your time and energy for basically nothing. I get that you might be very driven by whatever the reason is, but maybe if you take a step back, breathe a moment, you might be able to re-evaluate whether this is actually important and worth your effort.
You only have the time you have, and the energy you have. It’s very limited. I just wanted to step in and suggest you might spend it doing something pleasing and positive instead. You’ll be better off, I ensure you.
TranquilTurbulence@lemmy.zip 18 hours ago
Just a random coworker, nothing more important than that. We’re not even on any projects together, and I think I would rather keep it that way.
Having thought about this case a bit more, the risks are definitely uncomfortably high. Avoiding him seems like the best option. Besides, he rambles on an on about some drama that isn’t really helpful in my job anyway. Not really the kind of person I need around me.