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shawn1122@sh.itjust.works 1 day agoStrongly disagree. I’ve met far too many young men that see sex as a means to an often self serving end. Sex is a means of expressing love towards another person, it’s not meant for self gratification. Seeing it that way is a recipe to have a lot of meaningless sex only to be left wondering why you feel so empty.
Theres a reason women generally don’t climax from being jackhammered or even from clitoral stimualtion if they’re in any way uncomfortable. They’re coded for that emotional connection as a prerequisite for good sex. We are coded that way too but modern culture has painted that type of vulnerability as “unmanly”.
In my view, a good emotional connection creates the necessary conditions for good sex. But you don’t need good sex to have a strong emotional connection.
rumschlumpel@feddit.org 1 day ago
I never said that you can’t have sex without emotional intimacy. But the kind of emotional intimacy you get in a good romantic relationship is something that in our society your relatively unlikely to get outside of such a relationship, at least if you’re a man. Not impossible, and it should be more common, but right now it’s just not, especially for men.