Comment on Anon shares a family moment
lobut@lemmy.ca 1 day ago
According to the right-wing, “oh what, you wanna outlaw comedy now? it’s just a joke you snowflake!”
If you’re not offended by the father’s comments, just change the offending word to whatever you are. If you think nothing’s wrong with it, it could be worth learning why
I got picked on a lot as a kid. What it did was make me hyper sensitive to other people’s insecurities. I would see you and think: weight, race, bad at school, has a crush on X. I’d memorize it and put it in my back pocket and just dig at someone when they’d take a shot at me. It was a horribly daunting way to live because you’re never really enjoying the moment.
TexasDrunk@lemmy.world 1 day ago
If it had been a joke the father could have said something like “Time flies when you’re a fairy”.
I know that wasn’t your point, but your first line made me realize that. It’s still fucked up, but if you have a good relationship and know what the person is ok with that could absolutely be mistaken for a bad joke. Instead he just said something idiotic.
I don’t participate (feels kind of gross), but I’ve seen people joke with each other using slurs about the other. But I’m not the language police I’m not going to tell people what they can and can’t say. But this wasn’t even something that could accidentally be mistaken as a joke. This was just someone looking for a way to respond with a slur.
lobut@lemmy.ca 1 day ago
I agree with the banter with others. I do it with my friends. The thing is this … it has to go both ways and if they can’t jab back I usually give them a smile/hug and make sure they know I’m being a jerk. Like, they should be smiling after I take a jab at them.