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• spankmonkey@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  It is also people inserting their own assumptions of intent and the father/son relationship, including myself.

  I read it as a helpful parent addressing something their child has complained about while reinforcing the need to change when the current approach isn’t working. I’ve used something along the line with ‘no objections’ when trying to help my teenager do the things she wants to do but keeps talking herself out of trying.

  The exact same language coming from a controlling parent would have completely different meaning based on context. Looking at a comments, a few definitely had controlling parents or parents who didn’t accept they were asexual/gay and kept trying to set them up with a gender they had no interest in, possibly reading ‘unable to find girls’ as the son’s way of deflecting encouragement to date a gender they aren’t interested in based on personal experience.

  It really is wild how people can read the same words and interpret them completely differently based on personal experience influencing assumptions.

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  • Jason2357@lemmy.ca ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Agreed. I smiles at the blunt: no need to talk about this, just go try this. Then I read the comments. Guess I should call my dad.

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  • echodot@feddit.uk ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    I’m definitely imagining my own father in this example. Is a grumpy ex military sort, so god knows who he would think would be a good date but I can’t imagine they would be.

    He only ever texts me when he wants something, so if he sent me a message like this he would definitely mean that I literally have to do what he was saying. It wouldn’t be encouragement, it would be an instruction he expected to be followed. He wouldn’t think of it as being controlling though, he actually would think he was been helpful.

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