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tonystark29@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

I think I can almost remember the exact day that he shifted. We were talking about our previous girlfriends and he very openly bragged that he’s slept with better looking women than I have (I’m not like that). He kept talking about it over and over that day, I could see he was getting a lot of enjoyment out of it.

Before this, he was a different person. Overall good morals, good friend for the most part, rarely put me down.

It was very sudden.

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fmstrat@lemmy.nowsci.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago
Maybe you were with someone he actually liked, and he thought you knew it. A stretch for sure, but it’s a trigger for some.

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8ender@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago
Starting to drink really heavily is… well a key bit of information. I lost some friends years back when I got depressed. Didn’t even realize what I was doing, I just became an unfunny dick and thought I was the opposite. Didn’t realize what went wrong till I climbed back out of the depression. Still regret losing them as friends to this day.

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- uranibaba@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago
  Too much water under the bridge to talk to them again?
  
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  - 8ender@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago
    Yeah too long since and now too awkward. Not even sure how to get in touch with them.
    
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    uranibaba@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago
    Too bad. :(
    
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SmashingSquid@notyour.rodeo ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago
The alcohol is likely related. He might be insecure or something and projecting it on you, liquid courage probably makes him feel more comfortable being an asshole.

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OutlierBlue@lemmy.ca ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

rarely put me down.

But he did put you down. That’s not a good friend. He was like this the whole time, but chose to mostly hold back. Now he’s stopped.

Remove him from your life.

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