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Damdy@lemmy.world ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

Is the sudden personality change as drastic as it reads?

Sudden switches like that could be a sign of a serious medical condition, mid 20s is I believe a common age for these things to kick in too.

I’d talk to the brother about it coming from an angle of concern.

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tonystark29@lemmy.world ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
I think I can almost remember the exact day that he shifted. We were talking about our previous girlfriends and he very openly bragged that he’s slept with better looking women than I have (I’m not like that). He kept talking about it over and over that day, I could see he was getting a lot of enjoyment out of it.

Before this, he was a different person. Overall good morals, good friend for the most part, rarely put me down.

It was very sudden.

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- fmstrat@lemmy.nowsci.com ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
  Maybe you were with someone he actually liked, and he thought you knew it. A stretch for sure, but it’s a trigger for some.
  
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- 8ender@lemmy.world ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
  Starting to drink really heavily is… well a key bit of information. I lost some friends years back when I got depressed. Didn’t even realize what I was doing, I just became an unfunny dick and thought I was the opposite. Didn’t realize what went wrong till I climbed back out of the depression. Still regret losing them as friends to this day.
  
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  - uranibaba@lemmy.world ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
    Too much water under the bridge to talk to them again?
    
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    8ender@lemmy.world ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
    Yeah too long since and now too awkward. Not even sure how to get in touch with them.
    
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- SmashingSquid@notyour.rodeo ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
  The alcohol is likely related. He might be insecure or something and projecting it on you, liquid courage probably makes him feel more comfortable being an asshole.
  
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- OutlierBlue@lemmy.ca ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
  
  rarely put me down.
  
  But he did put you down. That’s not a good friend. He was like this the whole time, but chose to mostly hold back. Now he’s stopped.
  
  Remove him from your life.
  
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AA5B@lemmy.world ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
Or some sort of personal issue as the cause. Maybe you slept with someone he liked, maybe you are someone he liked, could he have looked up to you and then in your eyes you came crashing down?

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