Argument of defenders against student loan debt forgiveness
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logicbomb@lemmy.world 3 days ago
I remember the distinct feeling of hazing from my professors. You know, “The reason you have to suffer now is that I suffered when I went through the same thing. If we fix the problem and stop the suffering, then all of my suffering would be meaningless, and that wouldn’t feel fair to me.”
pineapplelover@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 days ago
Flocklesscrow@lemmy.zip 3 days ago
“the cycle of trauma will continue”
Whats_your_reasoning@lemmy.world 3 days ago
I had a manager who wouldn’t respect anyone who didn’t yell at him. Seriously. He had serious anger issues and would fly off the handle over nothing. He directed a lot of shit at me in particular, probably because I’ve been traumatized by crap like this before and that sociopath probably sensed it. I wasn’t yet aware of a lot of resources I know about today, didn’t have the self-esteem I’ve since found, and I was homeless at the time (thank goodness, I had friends who let me stay temporarily), so I absolutely depended on this job.
One day, a coworker told me that he only stops picking on someone when they yell at him. Sadly, I can’t give you the satisfying response you’re probably expecting: I refused to yell at him. I thought the entire idea was absurd, extremely unprofessional, and had the potential to backfire terribly.
I wish I could say that was the last manager to pick on me, but thankfully the last one was a mental health professional and had the listening skills to take my feedback … albeit only after she made me cry.
Man, I didn’t mean to trauma-dump. But after the shit I’ve been through, I can’t imagine attempting to pass such suffering onto others. I’m extremely grateful for the supportive environment that (usually) surrounds the therapy field. It feels good to be honest with managers and supervisors and know they respect constructive criticism. I can almost feel my heart healing.
msprout@lemmy.world 2 days ago
I had one of these colleagues. He insisted that he respects force, but whenever I pushed back, homie would run crying to our mutual boss.
One time, I snapped and yelled at him that I am a 15 year veteran, I know how to do my job. I ended up being forced to apologize to him for not respecting his ‘many years of experience.’
Mac@mander.xyz 3 days ago
You won by not stooping, even if it doesn’t feel that way.
Tollana1234567@lemmy.today 3 days ago
the PI in labs also believe 80-100hrs a week is the norm for graduate students.
Lemmyoutofhere@lemmy.ca 3 days ago
Sounds the same as MDs and residents.