Which comment is saying that? Everyone is being pretty explicit about the differences between choosing not to date because you’re uninterested versus because you think you’re too ugly.
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deadcatbounce@reddthat.com 4 weeks ago
TIL all aromantic (aro) persons are misogynists (but not misandrists) by reading the comments.
howrar@lemmy.ca 4 weeks ago
TheDoozer@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
That is very obviously not what anyone is saying. Not dating because you are not interested in dating is different than not dating because you’re down on yourself and blame the world (and those of the gender you find attractive) for creating your situation.
deadcatbounce@reddthat.com 4 weeks ago
As far as I can tell, people doing that very thing are being called incels. Not wanting to date for any reasons is regarded as a unavailable option.
I’m old and feel sorry for people who just want to be left alone for their own reasons. Why is this so called liberal - which in my mind means live and let live - baying-mob so much more vindictive and nasty than I could have ever imagined (rhetoric question).
TheDoozer@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
To be clear, that list (aro and “black-pilled”) was not all-inclusive. There are plenty of people who just don’t want to date, for whatever positive reason (e.g. too busy, focusing on other things, not feeling like making the effort) or even some with negative reasons (e.g. not feeling like they are in good working order mentally, just got out of a relationship and want to spend some time on their own, trauma) that aren’t aro or “black-pilled.” THIS LIST IS ALSO NOT ALL-INCLUSIVE.
Also:
Just… don’t. Stop throwing the word around so spuriously, or it could lose its meaning. It’s an important word, and using it like that leads to the kind of linguistic drift that takes the meaning out of the language.
deadcatbounce@reddthat.com 4 weeks ago
I’m not interested in pills black or otherwise.
Live and let live. If individuals are obviously not leading a compassionate life then keep away, but mass labelling an entire set of individuals that you do not know as incels is the very definition of bigotry.
I though we’d got rid of labelling people for their dating preferences when being lesbian, gay or bi stopped being particularly note-worthy. It’s a shame that you’re still behaving like those knuckle draggers of the 1970s with a different target.
You have given two options: aro or incel. There is an enormous third option which is unavailable to anyone but you, I guess.
Apparently I’m not allowed to use the word ‘bigot’ for a bigot. You don’t define my language use.