Comment on My son got Nikes so he doesn't get teased.

DancingBear@midwest.social ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

• spoke0thedevil@lemmy.zip ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  The shoes are probably not $300…more like $100. And the kids goal is to not feel socially ostracized, not to spend money frivolously.

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  • stringere@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Having to spend money tp avoid being socially ostracized IS frivolously spending money.

    • Unworthy of serious attention; trivial.

    • Inappropriately silly.

    • Of little weight or importance; not worth notice; slight.

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    • tomi000@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Tell me you have never been bullied without actually saying it.

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    • spoke0thedevil@lemmy.zip ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      To each their own…I would count not being socially ostracized as highly important, appropriate, and of significant weight.

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      • stringere@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        So you would teach kids that bowing to social pressure by buying overpriced fashion items is ok?

        To each their own indeed.

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  • DancingBear@midwest.social ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    It’s not worth it but give your kids whatever sheltered life you want

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• Rockbear@feddit.dk ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Kids tease whomever they perceive as weak.

  If he get the shows, it’s the wrong model. If he get the right model, it’s his har color. Etc.

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  • DancingBear@midwest.social ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    The kids who tease have severe insecurities, they are dodging and deflecting and pointing at other kids so that no one looks at them

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    • Rockbear@feddit.dk ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Probably true. That would explain why those bullied are so eager to join the bullies when the bullies set their sights on somebody else.

      Or, as the saying goes, Buffalo buffalo Buffalo buffalo buffalo, buffalo Buffalo buffalo.

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      • DancingBear@midwest.social ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        True 🦬

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• LifeInMultipleChoice@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  $300 shoes? I think the most expensive shoes I’ve ever bought were $70. I’m sure a lot of the issue with him getting picked on isn’t so much brand name but him feeling like he has no say in what he wears and feeling like he is dressed by his parents in styles he has no say in. Its been 25 years since I entered middle school like this kid, but back then I would have felt the same way if my parents were forcing me to wear something I didn’t like/want. It wasn’t about price either. Often times the shoes my parents wanted me to wear were the same or higher in price, but styles change over time and vary by region/groups. People have their own personalities and prefer to fit in if they can. If the kid doesn’t want to feel like a toddler and have more freedom in what they wear it isn’t a bad thing.

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