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cowfodder@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

If you’re serious about this I’d suggest a few things first. Find a poly friendly couples therapist and do a few appointments. Even if your relationship is totally secure you’ll get some good things about it. Read the book Polysecure. Look for polyamory or ENM spaces online and read, chat with others. What you’re describing is more of a V relationship with your wife as the hinge, or possibly a full throuple with you and the other guy as a platonic relationship. The main thing to remember is that everyone needs to be equal, and there’s really 4 relationships in play here:

You and your wife Him and your wife You and him All three of you

It’s possible to be ethical as a triad, but it’s work all the way around.

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