SincerityIsCool
@SincerityIsCool@lemmy.ca
she/her
- Comment on Does the ping between your eyes and brain increase when you're tired? 4 days ago:
Brains are weird so that checks out
- Comment on Does the ping between your eyes and brain increase when you're tired? 4 days ago:
I don’t think the speed of the electrical impulse would change, but yes reaction time would. Perception is more about our brain processing signals than it is about the signals themselves. What you experience yourself as seeing is not the raw image going into your eyes. Slower processing means you’re also less likely to see, as in be aware of, details.
- Comment on His demise is imminent. 1 week ago:
The Bart, the
- Comment on What's the solution to QR code phishing? 3 weeks ago:
When my phone scans a QR code it shows what the URL text is without needing to go to the URL. Any time you’re thinking about going to a link you gotta consider the risks, but if it says restrauntname.com/menu I’ll feel better about it than if it’s a url shortener
- Comment on What's the solution to QR code phishing? 3 weeks ago:
Plain, readable urls rather than using shortening services is a step in the right direction, but it won’t stop lookalike phishing.
- Comment on [deleted] 4 weeks ago:
You deserve that money more than anyone who parties on a yacht does.
Besides, it only seems generous because you and them live in fundamentally different financial worlds. If they were actually generous they’d pay enough taxes for you to have fully funded education with a liveable stipend.
- Comment on There's still no sign of Star Citizen 1.0, but it did just get a revamped referral program so the die-hards can tempt in even more saps 4 weeks ago:
I tried it out to see how it was coming along a year or so ago. It made Kenshi look polished.
- Comment on [deleted] 4 weeks ago:
This is really good advice for you, OP. Polyamory is potentially a very strong and fulfilling relationship structure, but it’s a lot of work and it’s not necessarily easy.
Most of the polyamorous people i know came into their relationships already down for polyamory. Opening up a monogamous relationship is risky, so it is a good idea to proceed in an informed and intentional manner.
There’s a lot of ways relationships can go. A part of polyamory means finding what works for y’all. Who knows, maybe it’ll end up as a monogamous situation where the new guy joins y’all platonically as chosen family.
- Comment on [deleted] 4 weeks ago:
To clarify, by polycule I mean the total chain of romantic relationships. Currently it’s four of us living together, and two more living together as a couple where me and my chosen family member have been dating one of them for years. For most of it, the section living together was three of us, romantically a v but more than that we think of eachother as chosen family.
It definitely helps with financial stability insofar as there’s a lot of buffer when someone is between jobs, but otherwise it’s not all that different. Housing space needs scale with number of people in the family, after all. We’re starting to look in to purchasing a house together, and to an extent the purchasing power of four working professionals helps there, but if we also want kids it means looking at big houses so again it kinda evens out. There’s also an added layer of legal complexity that becomes necessary with home ownership - we don’t have a ready made framework like marriage.
- Comment on [deleted] 4 weeks ago:
You should look into polyamory/consensual non-monogamy. What your describing doesn’t have to be seen as some sort of weird perverse thing doomed to failure and return to the status quo. It is a legitimate family structure.
I’ve been in a polyamorous family for almost a decade now. Most of it was three (the sort of v shape you describe) but also with a larger (currently six) non-domestic polycule. I’m not the tip of the v but I love my metamours (eord for partners’ partners) as family.
It’s viable. The trick is a gratuitous amount of candid conversation, and a dedication to the family.
- Comment on [deleted] 4 weeks ago:
Trump is shit, and he’s spewing shit, but that doesn’t make this a shitpost.
- Comment on If I wanted to have a maximally downvoted post, how would I go about accomplishing that? 1 month ago:
Why can’t I upvote and downvote this comment
- Comment on Deep thoughts with the deep 1 month ago:
And so it is that Moth through subversion becomes Lantern
- Comment on "Can i ask you for a favor?" Is it rude to say no? 1 month ago:
I guess you could say OP’s wording was a bit rude (stylistically, not in substance, imo). Personally I’d go with a “No, sorry.” or “Sorry, in a rush!” if on the move, and leave it at that as elaboration leaves the door open for them to pry. Either way the question is about whether it’s rude to refuse, not whether the specific example was.
Personally, I’d rather assume OP is chatting/providing more context rather than fishing for sympathy. Many of the comments that say it is rude also say but not if it’s a rando, which it was.
- Comment on "Can i ask you for a favor?" Is it rude to say no? 1 month ago:
Sometimes people use that question rhetorically because it feels polite, viewing it as a small talk precursor to ease in to actually just saying what they want.
I don’t like when people use it as such, because it is insincere, poor consent practice, and low-key manipulative due to the foot in the door phenomenon .
There are tons of legitimate reasons to not be comfortable with the question. Don’t have time, bad headspace, don’t feel comfortable… If they can’t understand that, I try not to care what they think of me.
- Comment on "Can i ask you for a favor?" Is it rude to say no? 1 month ago:
Assume they’re asking because they want to make sure it’s not imposing, in which case it’s good to assert boundaries you need too. If they push it was just a manipulation tactic, in which case you’re more than justified in walking.
- Comment on Jump Ship Demo is Live! 1 month ago:
Glad to hear it! Honestly I find almost everything just works. I often forget that things are supposedly Windows only.
- Comment on Jump Ship Demo is Live! 1 month ago:
Doesn’t work with proton?
- Comment on What's your favorite sport to watch or play? 1 month ago:
Maybe sometimes you gotta shitpost the shitpost with sincerity. Maybe sometimes you don’t particularly care about loss references. Maybe it’s Maybelline. I don’t think we’ll ever know.
- Comment on What's your favorite sport to watch or play? 1 month ago:
It’s a “fantasy football” miniatures/board game, except by fantasy I mean orcs and elves. There’s a lot of violence.
Mechanically it’s about positioning and risk management. Like chess, but the pieces are asymmetrical, unbalanced by design, and wildly incompetent. But it’s ok you don’t have to do probability math because “haha funny sports man trips on his feat just before the endzone, then dies” is all you need to understand.
- Comment on What's your favorite sport to watch or play? 1 month ago:
Blood Bowl
- Comment on I won a key code for life of p does anyone want it? 2 months ago:
That one is on my to play list for sure. If it’s on steam/pc I’d appreciate being in the draw
- Comment on What are some good cooperative shooters? Hidden gems? 2 months ago:
Deep Rock Galactic and Helldivers 2 are the ones I play. Usually at 2 players.