Personally I think @WeirdGoesPro@lemmy.dbzer0.com’s take is a bit prescriptive, but I do think that if you want a good long-term relationship, then it’s about finding what’s comfortable for both of you, not just for one of you. Boundary pushing can be OK, but usually only with prior consent or better some expression of desire… If either one of you pushes the other into doing something the other doesn’t really want, that’s probably not gonna pan out well in he long run. Listening (especially to the “why” part) and working together is impotant.
Thanks. I really appreciate the advice. I’m just not an inhibited person at all, so I find it difficult to relate to these kinds of feelings.
naught101@lemmy.world 1 day ago
WeirdGoesPro@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 day ago
And that is ok, you don’t have to personally understand it to acknowledge that his anxieties are valid and real. I wish you the best. It sounds like you have a good guy and good parents.
Just channel that inhibition towards traditional exhibitionism instead of parental exhibitionism, and I think you’ll be set.