Comment on Is it wrong or uncommon to judge people primarily on their worst moments/acts?
PhobosAnomaly@feddit.uk 2 days ago
Yes. As always though, context is key.
I tend to look at it as a see-saw. Run-of-the-mill kindness and general acts good nature sit near the fulcrum of one end of the seesaw. Similarly, a single or very few acts of genuine heroism and selflessness sit right at the far end of the “good” end of the seesaw, providing as much effort the lean towards the “good egg” character trait than the dozens of daily acts.
Similarly, being a general cunt sits near the fulcrum of the “bad” end for me, genuine malicious acts of emotional daaaamage or shithousery sit in the middle, with outright rape; murder; Nickelback fan club membership; and noncery sit at the par end.
So yes, on balance, if someone is habitually a good spud on the daily but happened to get a bit frisky with someone other than their monogamous partner once, I’d still say overall they were a good person but with shit judgement.
Equally, someone like Jimmy Saville or raised millions of pounds for British charities with his fame and stardom appeared to be a stand up guy, but the covert fiddling offsets that almost instantly.
A crude metaphor, but it works for me.
Phew, I unapologetically enjoy some nickelback songs but I also saved a baby from drowning once so I’m good.
So would you consider Dr. Diddler alright if he helped a few kids out mentally? Or what would you think he needs to do to balance his see-saw. I heard he also doesn’t put stuff at the grocery back in the right place if he decides a few aisles over they don’t want it anymore.
One day, out to a cliff That overlooks the water I jumped in to save a girl It was somebody’s daughter And now the ring that’s on my hand It was given to me by her And to this day we all sit around And dream of ways to get higher
-Nickleback, Leader of Men
actually one of their banger songs, fair play.
It is the only song of theirs that I will not immediately change the station if it comes on.
It’s been a while since I heard it, but Dave Chapelle has a foutine about this. It’s a guy who saves women from a burning building who otherwise would have died…but then he rapes some of them.
The whole punchline is “He rapes, but he saves”
I’m not doing it justice here, but it did get me thinking about morality when I first heard it.
Apytele@sh.itjust.works 7 hours ago
working in psychiatry for as long as I’ve had, the people I admire most are actually the ones who are just decent every single day. the ones who know everybody’s kids names and remember everybody’s birthday. I don’t know how they do it. I became the person who helps pull apart people trying to bite each other’s faces off because idk how to remember birthdays and I was hoping it would be something people appreciate but day to day it actually doesn’t. the people who make the biggest difference in people’s mental health are people who know how to plan a good Friday night get-together and how to follow up when they haven’t heard from one of the invitees for two weeks in a row.