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angrystego@lemmy.world 5 days agoThat’s just not true. Open relationships do exist (I’ve seen several work out nicely) but the overall opinion on them in most cultures is they’re weird, doomed or plain wrong and evil. Unless it is normalized that sex is not something fatal, it’s ok among consenting adults, we won’t move to a really sexually tolerant society.
GregorGizeh@lemmy.zip 5 days ago
What does it matter though? Do what you want, I don’t see why society as a whole needs to know about your sexual habits. Feels weird to proclaim sexual oppression when in practice it’s more like sexual privacy. I don’t need to know that you are in a consenting polyamorous relationship unless you want me to get with your wife.
angrystego@lemmy.world 4 days ago
I agree with the part that it’s really up to people. I don’t agree it’s ok to want people to hide their relarionships. And they do have to hide them or face problems. People who decide to live in uncommon relationships are a target for others. They often get questioned uncomfortably even by rather liberal people and attacked and bullied by conservative ones. It’s really hard to do this openly. In such circumstances, I do think it’s oppression. It’s also not really about me. But I have eyes and empathy.
GregorGizeh@lemmy.zip 3 days ago
I don’t want people to hide their sexuality, but I think there is an odd modern tendency to sort of overshare these things. I don’t want to know people’s sexualities unless I am romantically interested in them. Why do I need to know what and who you are doing in your private time?
To me it sort of feels like the “we’re trying to have a baby” announcements. Good for you I guess but kinda weird to tell people you’re fucking without protection. Tell me when you’re pregnant and/or have had the baby, that’s plenty information.
I will agree though that the less common sexualities are often met with raised eyebrows when it comes to these topics. Probably wouldn’t hurt if people wouldn’t default to the heterosexual standard assumption.