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latenightnoir@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 days agoWhile I’m not all that keen on the concept of testing partners (this coming from someone who can roughly be described as a cishet guy), I do agree that it is a good indicator of both maturity and intent.
porous_grey_matter@lemmy.ml 6 days ago
I don’t think they meant “testing” them like it’s some kind of game, hardly anyone does that and yeah it’s fucked up when they do.
It’s just, how do they handle it when you say no, do they moan about it and act entitled or just understand you’re a human being who doesn’t feel like sex literally all the time. That’s a real good piece of evidence to how this person actually views you and their relationship to you.
latenightnoir@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 days ago
Fair point, may be ancognitive bias of mine. Once burnt, twice shy, and all that. I apologise for misunderstanding, and thank you for pointing it out! Truly!
And, yep, 100% behind you. I’d say compatibility in general shows best when dealing with unpleasantness, because being couch potatoes together will always be the lowest common denominator, so to speak.