There are no ‘sides’.
My dad has recently been caught having an affair with his young personal assistant… Mom moved out, the other woman moved in
Staying makes it pretty clear OP is choosing a side. Theyde rather have a cool friend dad than an actual parent
Mac@mander.xyz 3 weeks ago
UrPartnerInCrime@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
Maybe not in a perfect world. But here there are clearly very opposing sides.
Even if the dad is cool about it and makes it seem like choosing to stay with him isn’t picking a side, it still is
My recommendation is not to side with the guy who not only had an affair but invited Ms side peice to live in their old family home
Jhuskindle@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Between an immoral piece of sh and a person who was dedicated and believed they weren’t yes there are sides.
Father isn’t just committing an act of betrayal, which he does to the person he loves, so op will definitely also be fair game for betrayal, father is also abusing his seat of power over his very young employee which is called coertion or quid pro quo and is UNACCEPTABLE. The fact OP could look into the eyes of a man who would betray him without a second thought is just cope.
Eventually it will sink in how horrific this was and op I am sure being moral themselves hopefully will take moms side.
Normal to go through a period of shock or denial before it sinks in.
FistingEnthusiast@lemmynsfw.com 3 weeks ago
UrPartnerInCrime@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
Nah. I’ll keep my family values
You can go have fun blowing up a family and chalk it up to “whoops. Just another mistake”
skye@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
If you are this allergic to nuance, I recommend staying away from threads that require logical/rational breakdowns of heavily-emotional topics.
You can’t just jump the gun (having fun blowing up families) about someone just because they answered OOPs question in an impartial manner.
So if you seriously cannot engage with this topic without resuming to attacks, I implore you to take a step back, reasess, and move on to something else.
UrPartnerInCrime@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
Nah. Im allowed to do whatever I want.
And I want to call out people for excusing an affair. The dad could have done it the right way, like an actual adult. Asking for a divorce is hard, but immeasurably easier emotionally to the person you make a commitment to than sneaking around and finally getting caught WITH YOUR ASSISTANT
FistingEnthusiast@lemmynsfw.com 3 weeks ago
whaleross@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
I’m curious to learn what you think about your username in this context? What crime are you partner in and is it only breaking a partnership that is an unforgivable crime?
UrPartnerInCrime@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
Are you a whale, Ross?