Comment on want to be a woman
Manticore@lemmy.nz 4 days agoI’m reminded of someone I know. He felt something similar for a long time. Ultimately he co clouded that, for him, what he really wanted was to feel attractive and desirable. And he’d concludes that only women could have that. And was wondering that wanting to feel beautiful meant he wanted to be a woman.
After some time around sex-positive people, he had experiences that helped him feel desirable and attractive as a man. He realised that was what he actually wanted, and he’d just been taught beauty was a women-thing.
Maybe that rings true for you, too. Maybe all you really want is to feel beautiful, wanted, desired. Maybe want you dislike isn’t your gender, but the role society has assigned you for it.
Only you can really figure that out. I just wondered if my friends story would mean something to you… Being trans is a valid answer, but it isn’t the right one for everybody.
glorkon@lemmy.world 4 days ago
Absolutely, and I am aware of that - it’s really the case with me. I do not dislike being male. I just dislike being ugly - not many people can claim to have spent 20 years as an involuntary celibate like me. I’m almost 50 and it just feels like so much wasted time. Wasted youth, really.
Going trans wouldn’t solve the problem at all. Nothing will solve the problem, to be honest. I have accepted my fate.
Genius@lemmy.zip 4 days ago
Bro there are catgirls on Discord who think the physical world is an illusion and would cybersex you without ever looking at your face.
Most of them are gay, but there’s enough bi and straight ones that you have a chance.
glorkon@lemmy.world 4 days ago
Yes, they’d cybersex me without looking at my face, but that is precisely what would not at all fulfill my desire to be considered attractive.
Genius@lemmy.zip 4 days ago
And what if you did a roleplay where you were a big tiddy dragoness who everyone thought was hot?