Comment on Why we’ve fallen out of love with dating apps

Dark_Arc@social.packetloss.gg ⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

• GenderNeutralBro@lemmy.sdf.org ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  If you like hiking, you might also enjoy indoor rock climbing. It’s more social and fun than a gym and you will have the opportunity to interact with a lot of the same people repeatedly. You might even have some beginners groups in you area to get started. Meetup.com is good for finding groups like that.

  Good luck out there!

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  • Dark_Arc@social.packetloss.gg ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    I actually did try rock climbing, my ex and I did it.

    I proposed going to first time we dated, she got into it while we were split, I would go a few times a month with her, and then basically haven’t been in a few months since we split.

    The climbing gym in my area is on the other side of town and just constantly PACKED and I was also never very good at it … plus I’m colorblind and the routes are color coded which makes it even trickier … so it’s not really my cup of tea.

    I’ll probably give it another shot (this time with friends) once it gets cold again (I’m in NE Ohio).

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• Vodulas@beehaw.org ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  Join a hiking group/club, and don’t do it with the express intent of dating. I’m not saying don’t hope, but don’t because you enjoy the activity

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  • Dark_Arc@social.packetloss.gg ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    I haven’t seen any good hiking groups in my area. The ones that exist on meetup.com are mostly “people with grey hairs” … and there’s nothing wrong with that other than I just turned 30 last month.

    It’s been that way throughout my twenties.

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    • kruffa@beehaw.org ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

      Well, I’m sure these grey haired people would be more than happy to hike with you and introduce you (more or less subtly) to the people they have in their life of your approximate age and gender-preference.

      As they are older (and not just more stressed) they are still used to help people meet “organically”.

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      • Dark_Arc@social.packetloss.gg ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

        Yeah, that’s not terrible advice.

        I think I’m just a bit … demoralized about that … since I do know a lot of older folks (I literally shoveled the driveways of 4 older neighbors this winter and have various 50+ friends) and no help has come from that direction…

        I might give it a shot though, thanks

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    • Vodulas@beehaw.org ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

      Is there an outfitter like REI in your city? They often have classes and clubs as well. You could also try something new. Maybe since you like video games, give board or tabletop games a try and go to a local game shop for a game night.

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• twice_hatch@midwest.social ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  Hell even if you go to church, I’ve had a real bad time crushing on people from church. Can’t recommend it

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• Powderhorn@beehaw.org ⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  Meet people online via shared interests. I’m not one to tout Reddit, but really engaging in niche communities there gives you wide exposure specifically targeted. Don’t expect immediate results, but it is a valid method.

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  • Dark_Arc@social.packetloss.gg ⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    Yeah no, I don’t want to date half way across the country or world … or slide into other people’s DMs which is something girls ALSO complain about dudes doing.

    Not to mention there are a ton of elements of attraction that just don’t work on a forum.

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    • Powderhorn@beehaw.org ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

      But hourslong calls with a Scottish lass? Would you turn down the opportunity to have that in your ear?

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  • Excel@beehaw.org ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    Nope, then you get people complaining that “this is not a dating spot”.

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    • Powderhorn@beehaw.org ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

      I mean, tell that to my ex-fiancee where it took us a year to get engaged after meeting on Reddit. Then Covid hit and we couldn’t meet. We still talk, years later, but now we’re in “old friends” mode.

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