i just wanna fucking be able to give people i meet $20 if i feel they need it, and not have to even think about how it affect my ability to buy food
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fluffykittycat@slrpnk.net 3 weeks ago
I don’t get this if I suddenly got a lot of money I would use it to go start the hippie commune and further the revolution like fuck buying a Mercedes or whatever rich people do
Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de 3 weeks ago
grrgyle@slrpnk.net 3 weeks ago
I had that for a bit. Felt about as good as you’d think (pretty good). Directly helping (like with your labour) still feels better, though.
TonyOstrich@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
I’m right there with you. I’m not super well off, but I have my emergency funds plus some extra and across a couple of close friends of mine I have given away $3k$4k because of life fucking them over with no expectation that I will ever see that money. The instant I made that decision in my mind the money was theirs to do with whatever they wanted to.
I have never understood people who expect to be thanked or paid back when being “generous” or charitable, especially with those close to them. It almost entirely defeats the purpose in my mind. I generally find being thanked kinda uncomfortable and the only thing I care about is knowing that they received it.
On the subject of buying an expensive car. If I ever did come into a lot of money, I probably would treat myself, but not to some shiny thing. Oh no. I would take the equivalent amount of money and use it to turn something like a station wagon or utility van into an absolute monster. That sounds way more fun.
JayleneSlide@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Maybe you will, and I sincerely hope that is the case for you. However, there are many, many studies demonstrating that this is not the case for most humans.
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It’s all about power and control; money is merely the scorekeeping system
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When people start accruing some power, in money form or otherwise, brain structure changes
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Exceptions to this are the rarity
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This is why humanity is stuck in the boom-bust doom loop for the history of civilization: a few people think they figured out the recipe to get all the power. They do the same shit that has been tried in the past, but somehow THIS time is going to be different for them. But it’s not, and they end up in guillotines, whether literal or metaphorical. And the cycle starts all over again.
There are few exceptions to this doom loop, and the Salish Tribes leap to mind. They lived in balance with their lands and each other for at least 13500 years. Too bad they also got fuct by colonizers.
Example sources (but there are so many from which to choose):
- news.cornell.edu/…/people-who-focus-too-much-mone…
- Pretty good roll-up of conclusions across many studies: pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10461512/
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Kyrgizion@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Yes, and that is why people like you and me will never be rich in the first place. This mindset completely prevents it.
fluffykittycat@slrpnk.net 3 weeks ago
I could make some cash if I did some unethical things
boredtortoise@lemm.ee 3 weeks ago
The workers’ work is and will not be rewarded, sigh