The world is fucked up, has been depending on perspective, but more so now.
Its your inability to adept that triggers your melancholy
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Wanderer@lemm.ee 4 weeks ago
I really feel like the world’s changed.
The last 20-30 has seen everything flip on it’s head it’s so weird.
Everything seemed more freeing and liberating, more open . But now everything’s gone to shit. Don’t even care if I sound like a boomer anymore. World is actually fucked up.
bathing_in_bismuth@sh.itjust.works 4 weeks ago
Wanderer@lemm.ee 4 weeks ago
I just spent two years living and working in Australia and New Zealand. Not sure any of that applies to me.
When I came to university and meeting girls/ having fun everything that came before me seemed better, everything that came after me seemed worse.
Its been on the downward for a while. Same applies to being a kid, though I did get someone a good foot in both worlds as a kid. Now seems worse than my time though.
Trollception@sh.itjust.works 4 weeks ago
Every generation says that lol.
Initiateofthevoid@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 weeks ago
I mean… I’m sorry to say that this is just what aging feels like.
Choices narrow, freedoms restrict, responsibilities build. And all the while, we gain more personal power, more personal experience, and yet we bear witness to more and more things that we cannot change.
You don’t sound like a boomer, because boomers didn’t invent aging. You just sound like someone who is letting themself get old.
Wanderer@lemm.ee 4 weeks ago
I’m saying from the 70’s to the 80’s things got less sexist, less conservative, more liberating, more free speech. Same thing happened from the 80’s to the 90’s. Possibly same from 90’s to 00’s (or maybe largely the same). Then 00’s to 10’s the trend reversed, then 10’s to 20’s that reversal continued.
Now here we are.
What I am saying is. Whenever I talked to people about university that were older than me it seemed better in their view and mine. Everyone I talked about university after seems it got worse in their view and mine.
Same for childhood and same for 20’s (2008 being an exception). I also noticed this about travelling to other countries.
theneverfox@pawb.social 4 weeks ago
Because things oscillate. There is progress in response to cruelty, then you have regression that grows to resist the change
This has happened for all of recorded of human history.
The difference now is our power. Humanity always polluted, but we never could poison the whole world. Humanity always had ethnic cleansing, but it was once dozens instead of millions. Humanity always exploited the powerless, but now the powerful have more power while the rest have even less
If we weather this storm, things will becomr so much better in reaction. If. Extinction is a real possibility for the first time since our genetic bottleneck… We have the ability to extinct our species in multiple ways
But if we manage to hold on, the pendulum will turn. The dawn will be brighter than the darkness, of if we can hold on
sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works 4 weeks ago
I don’t think freedoms really restrict, I think we end up restricting ourselves because we prioritize those responsibilities over our own desires. I think it’s just our perception of what we can do changes, and we get more realistic about what we can achieve.
As you said, as we get older, we get more personal power and experience, and we have the option to try to pursue those, or to take the “easier” path and stick to our responsibilities. I find myself copping-out all the time (i.e. I have kids, so I don’t spend time protesting/lobbying for change), yet I totally could make the time for other things if I really prioritize it. In fact, I’ve been considering running for office because I hate my local reps, I just haven’t committed to it yet. But I could totally do it if I really wanted to.
Initiateofthevoid@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 weeks ago
All great points! I agree that most of it is self-imposed, and a lot of it is even subconscious (i.e. we often don’t even notice when we cop out of things - it’s just… a thing we did not or would not do)
I will say that some freedoms do legitimately restrict with age, even if they are self-imposed. It’s a metaphorical restriction that still effectively, literally, binds you in one way or another.
For example, it’s probably against your personal code to even consider walking away from your family. You might consider running for office, but you might not consider risking your life - because it’s not just your life you’re risking.
Most people are not really free to walk away or risk it all. Even if they logically acknowledge that the choice is technically available, it’s behind an invisible wall that they simply won’t cross without experiencing or causing some sort of crisis.
Others have the opposite problem - they can’t really choose not to risk their lives fighting for a cause, because they know it’s not just their life they’re fighting for. They can’t walk away from their people anymore than you can walk away from your children.
It’s not a bad thing, for the record. It’s just a thing. We build our lives, and in so doing, we build a structure that contains us. The same limits that we impose upon ourselves serve as the foundation from which we grow as people.
sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works 4 weeks ago
Right, I just think it’s important to acknowledge that these restrictions are due to our own priorities, and not imposed on us by someone else. There’s far too much victimhood, and I think a simple mental shift of acknowledging that any restrictions we see are self-imposed can really help with life satisfaction (i.e. grants some level of control).
For example, I have always wanted to start my own business, but chose not to because it’s too risky. I have obligations to my family, and I haven’t yet found a business idea that I can be reasonably confident will provide adequately for them. I’m still free to go pursue a business idea, I’m just deciding not to because stability is more important to me than the possibility of wealth.