Comment on Anon talks to a girl
chicken@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 weeks agoIt’s ok but it’s like this idea that they should be ashamed for not thinking to do it, like it’s their obligation as a man or something
Comment on Anon talks to a girl
chicken@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 weeks agoIt’s ok but it’s like this idea that they should be ashamed for not thinking to do it, like it’s their obligation as a man or something
Gullible@sh.itjust.works 4 weeks ago
Most every person has that moment where they realize that someone was flirting with them, but they were unaware. It’s your obligation as a sexual being to recognize it, not to accept their advances. The implication that they didn’t understand the woman’s meaning is the joke. They’re free to reject it, but they didn’t. They just didn’t notice. So we poke fun.
Prathas@lemmy.zip 4 weeks ago
FTFY
umbrella@lemmy.ml 4 weeks ago
til i’m not fulfilling my obligations as a sexual being…?
chicken@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 weeks ago
When I was young, insecure about my sexual inexperience, convinced I was worth less than others, and on 4chan all the time, there were some levels on which I really did not understand that, which led to some uncomfortable situations, and could easily have led to worse ones. Flirting isn’t really something you analyze and make decisions about anyway, if someone isn’t responding to it, maybe that says something about how they are feeling and should be respected regardless of if they understand on a conscious level what is going on.
SpaceShort@feddit.uk 4 weeks ago
What do you do when you notice some hints but aren’t interested in them romantically, but instead genuinely want to be friends with them?
Gullible@sh.itjust.works 4 weeks ago
Reject their advances but state that you’d like to remain friends. I cannot offer specifics beyond that, as people are complex and relationships are hard. Results oriented phrasing. State it in the way that you believe they’d like to hear it, and will allow you to remain their friend.
SpaceShort@feddit.uk 4 weeks ago
It’s someone I met recently. My brain noticed they’re interst and went “seems like a great potential friend”. But I’m worried about leading her on if I reach out.
Buddahriffic@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
I’d argue ignoring their advances while being aware isn’t a very friendly thing to do. Not that you’re obligated to act on their advances, just don’t pretend to be a friend.