honestly I appreciate the use of this story. it takes guts to say it, true or not, and really no one should be ridiculed for being a virign. there are a lot of real people out there with the same exact story.
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Yoga@lemmy.ca 1 week ago
If that was a lie it’s pretty gross to use other people’s trauma as a prop.
Knowing how few CSA victims actually speak out relative to how common it is (1 in 4 to 1 in 10 depending on source) I would usually assume someone’s being honest about it. Despite it being absolutely life ruining and an incredible up hill battle to recover from there is little recognition publicly for it.
TimewornTraveler@lemm.ee 1 week ago
shneancy@lemmy.world 1 week ago
tbf, next time the guy tries to make fun of someone for being a virgin he’ll think twice about it because of that interaction, and who knows maybe that will spare a person who actually went though something like that from having to feel awful
in this situation, despite being in poor taste, the lie could’ve actually done some good in the long run
threshold_dweller@lemmy.today 1 week ago
i mean … maybe. But Lemmy is still gonna use “incel” as an insult, which is literally the same. Ive seen that here more than anywhwere else.
a_wild_mimic_appears@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 week ago
thats because self defined incels are awful people, especially regarding their online conduct. That absolutely makes “incel” a valid descriptor for people who behave like one - spreading misogynist bullshit, fantasizing about alpha males and jawlines and having a very “black and white” worldview, coupled with a tendency to glorify authoritarian society and being awful to anyone not fitting in their simply wrong pseudoscientifical “there are only 2 genders” and “homosexuality and transness are a mental disease” lies.
Incel is absolutely legit as an insult when someone behaves like one. The focus does NOT lie on virginity at all, but on a mindset.
nomy@lemmy.zip 6 days ago
Whatever somersaults you need to do to make your insulting people for not having sex ok. Same as every other generalization and stereotype. It’s just a shortcut for “who can I other” ?
TimewornTraveler@lemm.ee 1 week ago
comment si nag even the writer didn’t upvote it