Iâm really sorry to hear whatâs happened mate. I hope sheâll be OK soon â¤ď¸
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Bottom_racer@aussie.zone â¨4⊠â¨weeks⊠ago
Bit of a health scare for the olâ girl yesterday. Fainted, collapsed went to bed. I was in the garden and had no idea. olâ boy was down the bellarine gave me a buzz to see where she was. I found her completely out of it with fever symptoms. He comes racing back directing me on what to do / look for over the phone. Fuck sheâs lucky to have a medico hubby.
but jeez olâ boys language / demeanor changes when there are problems like the ones weâve seen in the last 6 months. Shit gets calm, direct and accurate. Heâs normally a grumpy old bastard. We have our differences but with mumâs polycrisis, weâre both on the same page which has completely surprised me.
Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone â¨4⊠â¨weeks⊠ago
Bottom_racer@aussie.zone â¨4⊠â¨weeks⊠ago
Thanks man.
I just wasnât prepared for all these things to hit at once. Vision (and the shitload of drugs), teeth / food, physical mobility (and the risk of falls), hearing, memory, depression. Itâs hard to know whatâs feeding into each problem.
Used to visit my gran all the time at a âwell to doâ nursing home and I really didnât like what I was seeing. The thought of it for the olâ girl scares me as thereâs a bit of complex care involved and Iâm not sure they (or she) would cope and decline would be rapid.
I suppose age comes for us all, if weâre lucky or unlucky.
Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone â¨4⊠â¨weeks⊠ago
I can understand that man. Itâs a lot to take in at once.
The reluctance to go into an care place I completely understand. I hope things improve so she can stay at home â¤ď¸
anotherspringchicken@aussie.zone â¨4⊠â¨weeks⊠ago
Oh your poor mum, and you & yr dad. Hope sheâs ok and is on the mend soon
just_kitten@aussie.zone â¨4⊠â¨weeks⊠ago
Damn, just saw this. What a lot to go through mate, Iâm sorry you had to go through all that (and sorry for your parents too). Mum is indeed very lucky to have a medically trained husband. And itâs good that heâs able to see what matters and put the grumpiness aside in this sort of situation. Lucky he was not the one to have started losing faculties/abilities firstâŚ
If you feel okay with sharing it Iâd be interested to know what happened to your mum to have gotten so acutely ill. I do worry about my mum because of her living alone and the kinds of things that can befall her
Bottom_racer@aussie.zone â¨4⊠â¨weeks⊠ago
Yea sure.
About 15 years ago she had mouth cancer, a doc nicked the carotid artery, along with radiation therapy led to her losing her teeth over time as the jaw became necrotic.
Then she had glaucoma. They buggered one op over many, and she lost vision in 1 eye.
Then the rona hit and she didnât do any real exercise for 2 years
Another mouth op, made eating difficultâŚ
Then she had a fall 6 months ago, her remaining eye ruptured, another 2 ops and the pressure was fucked both low then high, okay now but less vision than before
So itâs a thing where itâs difficult to eat, drink, talk, see, hear (which is unrelated to anything), exercise.
And itâs compounding. Not getting enough to eat, lowers appetite, hard to eat anyway, makes exercise harder, which lowers appetite⌠not being able to see clearly and poor stability / mobility due to lack of exercise and nutrition, lowers app⌠and around we go. The fainting yesterday was probs due to new blood pressure drugs and lack of water (hard to drink), which will increase risk of falls⌠and around we go.
Itâs not really âacutelyâ ill, itâs just everything thatâs happened to her is working against her pretty quickly together since that fall and decline is x2 speed now. Personally I think she might have had a little bleed as her personality changed a bit afterwards but no one is investigating that.
Thereâs also a lot of refusal which isnât helping her but what can you do.
Sheâs had a lot of expert advice, but now itâs hit a hard limit.
just_kitten@aussie.zone â¨4⊠â¨weeks⊠ago
Mate, holy hell, that is a lot for her and you to go through. I really appreciate you sharing so much when you didnât have to. No wonder so much is deteriorating so significantly for her, I mean shit a NECROTIC JAW?! over 15 years and everything else piling on top more and more. After a point I can totally see why she wouldâve spiralled psychologically as well. My mum is very fortunate to have no chronic issues other than a sensitive gut (eats very healthily but she also doesnât exercise much). I suspect when that sort of rapid decline starts setting in many of us will find it harder to keep up the strength needed to deal with it all.
I feel for your frustration, if the patient themselves refuses thereâs only so much you can do. Itâs definitely a silver lining that at least your dad and you are united on this. I hope your mum at least will get to a better emotional space even as her body declinesâŚ