Iām really sorry to hear whatās happened mate. I hope sheāll be OK soon ā¤ļø
Comment on Discussion Thread šš¼ Saturday 12 April 2025
Bottom_racer@aussie.zone āØ1ā© āØweekā© ago
Bit of a health scare for the olā girl yesterday. Fainted, collapsed went to bed. I was in the garden and had no idea. olā boy was down the bellarine gave me a buzz to see where she was. I found her completely out of it with fever symptoms. He comes racing back directing me on what to do / look for over the phone. Fuck sheās lucky to have a medico hubby.
but jeez olā boys language / demeanor changes when there are problems like the ones weāve seen in the last 6 months. Shit gets calm, direct and accurate. Heās normally a grumpy old bastard. We have our differences but with mumās polycrisis, weāre both on the same page which has completely surprised me.
Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone āØ1ā© āØweekā© ago
Bottom_racer@aussie.zone āØ1ā© āØweekā© ago
Thanks man.
I just wasnāt prepared for all these things to hit at once. Vision (and the shitload of drugs), teeth / food, physical mobility (and the risk of falls), hearing, memory, depression. Itās hard to know whatās feeding into each problem.
Used to visit my gran all the time at a āwell to doā nursing home and I really didnāt like what I was seeing. The thought of it for the olā girl scares me as thereās a bit of complex care involved and Iām not sure they (or she) would cope and decline would be rapid.
I suppose age comes for us all, if weāre lucky or unlucky.
Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone āØ1ā© āØweekā© ago
I can understand that man. Itās a lot to take in at once.
The reluctance to go into an care place I completely understand. I hope things improve so she can stay at home ā¤ļø
anotherspringchicken@aussie.zone āØ1ā© āØweekā© ago
Oh your poor mum, and you & yr dad. Hope sheās ok and is on the mend soon
just_kitten@aussie.zone āØ1ā© āØweekā© ago
Damn, just saw this. What a lot to go through mate, Iām sorry you had to go through all that (and sorry for your parents too). Mum is indeed very lucky to have a medically trained husband. And itās good that heās able to see what matters and put the grumpiness aside in this sort of situation. Lucky he was not the one to have started losing faculties/abilities firstā¦
If you feel okay with sharing it Iād be interested to know what happened to your mum to have gotten so acutely ill. I do worry about my mum because of her living alone and the kinds of things that can befall her
Bottom_racer@aussie.zone āØ1ā© āØweekā© ago
Yea sure.
About 15 years ago she had mouth cancer, a doc nicked the carotid artery, along with radiation therapy led to her losing her teeth over time as the jaw became necrotic.
Then she had glaucoma. They buggered one op over many, and she lost vision in 1 eye.
Then the rona hit and she didnāt do any real exercise for 2 years
Another mouth op, made eating difficultā¦
Then she had a fall 6 months ago, her remaining eye ruptured, another 2 ops and the pressure was fucked both low then high, okay now but less vision than before
So itās a thing where itās difficult to eat, drink, talk, see, hear (which is unrelated to anything), exercise.
And itās compounding. Not getting enough to eat, lowers appetite, hard to eat anyway, makes exercise harder, which lowers appetiteā¦ not being able to see clearly and poor stability / mobility due to lack of exercise and nutrition, lowers appā¦ and around we go. The fainting yesterday was probs due to new blood pressure drugs and lack of water (hard to drink), which will increase risk of fallsā¦ and around we go.
Itās not really āacutelyā ill, itās just everything thatās happened to her is working against her pretty quickly together since that fall and decline is x2 speed now. Personally I think she might have had a little bleed as her personality changed a bit afterwards but no one is investigating that.
Thereās also a lot of refusal which isnāt helping her but what can you do.
Sheās had a lot of expert advice, but now itās hit a hard limit.
just_kitten@aussie.zone āØ1ā© āØweekā© ago
Mate, holy hell, that is a lot for her and you to go through. I really appreciate you sharing so much when you didnāt have to. No wonder so much is deteriorating so significantly for her, I mean shit a NECROTIC JAW?! over 15 years and everything else piling on top more and more. After a point I can totally see why she wouldāve spiralled psychologically as well. My mum is very fortunate to have no chronic issues other than a sensitive gut (eats very healthily but she also doesnāt exercise much). I suspect when that sort of rapid decline starts setting in many of us will find it harder to keep up the strength needed to deal with it all.
I feel for your frustration, if the patient themselves refuses thereās only so much you can do. Itās definitely a silver lining that at least your dad and you are united on this. I hope your mum at least will get to a better emotional space even as her body declinesā¦