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• inb4_FoundTheVegan@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

  Quit your doomin’. This isn’t complicated. Parties aren’t like they are in movies, it’s literally just getting drunk on a couch. Don’t let the social anexity win. Just invite everyone you know to yours and tell them to invite who they know. As long as you meet someone new then your circle is growing. Friends of friends exist.

  I literally had one friend like 7 years ago until I moved in with a barely functional alcoholic I knew from playing magic. He was an asshole with creepy friends, but those friends were dominos that led me to a few bad relationship, and eventually my wife.

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  • lnfg@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    About 6-9 years ago, I made an acquaintance through events in town who created a unique meetup group. I think he was in grad school, he wasn’t from the area originally. He started a group of people meeting at a bar called The “BarNameHere” Experiment via a mailing list and just invited people and told them to bring a friend. Sometimes there was a theme or a game. Sometimes 5 people showed up sometimes 30.

    Anyway, it felt like the perfect way to create your own friend circle by providing a place for people to meet new people etc. I guess you need some charisma to be that person but imagine dropping everything, moving to a new place, finding a chill bar you can get people to gather at, and literally just invite random people to bring their friends and make it happen every week. It’s an Experiment. Like can you create a friend circle out of nobody?

    Other people in the thread discuss the concept of losing our “third-places”. And then some people are out there are creating third places for themselves out of thin air. Not easy to do but it’s a concept that can work like you said:

    Just invite everyone you know to yours and tell them to invite who they know. As long as you meet someone new then your circle is growing.

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