Comment on Discussion Thread šÆ Tuesday 1 April 2025
MeanElevator@aussie.zone āØ1ā© āØmonthā© agoMy wife hasnāt spoke with her dad in over 20 years and with her mum for about 6 years now.
We both recognized what our parents did that was wrong (to us at least) and we tried to avoid repeating those mistakes.
We are also on the same page 99% of the time and back each other up.
From day 1 we put our kids first. Not our own parents and their wants, but us and the kids. Thatās probably the biggest one.
We donāt care if our parents arenāt happy with something, as long as we and the kids are happy.
Example - wifeās family is big into giant family gatherings (weddings, birthdays, engagements etc). We are not. So we used to skip a lot of them, or leave early.
Received a fair bit of flack from relatives, and we just told them to shove it (politely). If my kid is tired or bored, we leave. Simple.
TinyBreak@aussie.zone āØ1ā© āØmonthā© ago
How essential is this part? My wife supports me on the boundaries with my parents. But on other stuff we are less aligned.
MeanElevator@aussie.zone āØ1ā© āØmonthā© ago
Hard to say. When it comes to hobbies and certain attitudes about things, wife and I differ.
When it comes to anything regarding our kidsā development and influence, we align.
You can have different views and still be successful, just depends on what it is really.
CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone āØ1ā© āØmonthā© ago
Same with the man and I. āWhat do you think about this?ā is a common question in our relationship.
āI donāt care and I donāt give a fuckā means go ahead, do what you want. š