Comment on The consequences (of my actions) have been extreme

• MonkderVierte@lemmy.ml ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Look, humans are inherently social animals. In public, there’s some pressure to behave the “correct” way, present an image. In private spaces with friends, you don’t have that pressure, you can unwind and make the occasional silly joke. That guy, however, betrayed the trust they gave him and TO and you say that’s their fault, for being silly with someone they trusted.

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  • ByteOnBikes@slrpnk.net ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Gonna share this again.

    This commenter said it best:

    To the people who think what OP did was completely normal and something everyone does, (and I hate to use this phrase) check the “ratio” here. Nobody thinks this is normal. You and OP are in the slim minority spewing vile shit about people in your lives. It’s cruel and childish. You’d be smart to learn from OP’s predicament before you find yourself in the exact same situation with everyone you know hating you because you thought it was perfectly normal to constantly trash talk them behind their back. It’s not normal. Not everyone is doing it. Assholes like OP and apparently yourself are doing it. And it clearly can bite you in the ass. As I said in my initial comment, these kinds of things can have serious real world consequences. So you may wanna wise up and start being a respectable human being ;)

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    • ameancow@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      It’s wild how many people feel entitled to just do or say whatever they want without repercussions, and then make themselves into victims when they do face those consequences.

      This user above is obviously one of those who are bristling because they realize they are vulnerable to this exact thing… it’s very telling, the people who rage at the idea of having their “private” content leaked are always the ones with the worst private content.

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  • ameancow@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Look, humans are inherently social beings. In public, there’s some pressure to behave the “correct” way, present an image.

    None of this says anything to this discussion, none of this provides new context for this situation.

    In private spaces with friends, you don’t have that pressure,

    Fine, but that doesn’t take away the risk of something you and your shitty friends saying or doing getting out of your special, controlled space. And the very fact that you worry about containment should be some kind of warning that you’re risking trouble. That should be something that crosses your mind any time you share anything with anyone else, “trusted” scuzzy friend or not. You can’t control what other people say and do, you can’t expect even people you trust to not make mistakes, so again, the crux of it is you cannot share things that could potentially have negative consequences if brought to light. It’s on you. You should have taken more care with what you shared and who you shared it with.

    I’m sorry if that hard life fact makes you feel potentially victimized by others or less capable of telling your raunchy jokes without pausing to make sure you’re not setting yourself up for problems, but that’s literally growing up.

    the occasional silly joke

    You have no idea what was shared here, you have no idea if your “silly jokes” might do a lot of harm if the wrong person sees them, so maybe you need to figure out what actually constitutes “silly” and understand your own sense of humor shouldn’t be a standard, because if you’re one of those people who say hurtful things, then blame others for being offended, that makes you a giant pile of steaming shit of a human being, the kind of person YOU would hate, and I don’t think you want to be that, so again, this is just a warning, not a condemnation. It’s very easy to become that which we would hate if the roles were switched.

    That guy, however, betrayed the trust they gave him and TO and you say that’s their fault, for being silly with someone they trusted.

    Your use of the word “silly” is doing so much heavy-lifting here I hope you’re paying it overtime.

    And just because you extend trust, doesn’t mean you’re owed anything, doesn’t mean you extended that trust properly, if you just extend trust to just anyone you meet who you seem to like, when the consequences could get the whole internet talking about you, MAAAAYBE you’re bad all of this.

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    • MonkderVierte@lemmy.ml ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Got it, you are just a pedantic.

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      • ameancow@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        Got it, you can’t read.

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