Comment on The consequences (of my actions) have been extreme

• Polderviking@feddit.nl ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

  The abuse of trust is the problem there, not the trust itself…

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  • ameancow@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

    There’s no scenario where you’re not the a-hole if you’re going to parrot something someone else told you in private, elsewhere.

    There is no scenario where you “extending trust” to someone protects you from potential consequence.

    If you’re sharing things in confidence that could get you in trouble, you’re already making a mistake, and this triggers some people and I cannot fathom why. Just be more careful and you’ll be fine, you’re not entitled to privacy on the internet, you cannot predict what other people do, and even if you’re totally in the right and someone else is deliberately trying to “take you down” you have made mistakes in extending trust to people you don’t know well enough, on the internet, about things that could have consequences.

    I am sad that people never taught their kids how to use the internet back when it was newer, they just all said “nothing there is real, don’t worry about it” while we all use it all day, every day, with no real guidance.

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    • Polderviking@feddit.nl ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

      I think you think I’m agry with the wrong person.

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      • ameancow@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

        I don’t know who you’re “angry” with but you’re either soft-defending the people who had the server or doing the worst job in the world specifying who you’re directing criticism at.

        The abuse of trust is the problem there, not the trust itself…

        There’s no scenario where you’re not the a-hole if you’re going to parrot something someone else told you in private, elsewhere.

        I’ve definitely got some bleak ass humor with some friends in private but forwarding messages people sent you in private to other people and group chats? Really?

        I think a lot of people here feel like you’re mounting a case against Derek, or at least saying the guys with the discord server are not accountable or less accountable.

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  • prole@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

    There’s no scenario where you’re not the a-hole if you’re going to parrot something someone else told you in private, elsewhere.

    I can think of several, including the one being described in the original post

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  • VitoRobles@lemmy.today ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

    Seems like the finger should be pointed at you for being so naive and trusting someone so blindly?

    And reading the post, you telling me if OP was sending nudes of his girlfriend to a group chat, Derrick is the asshole here?

    Yeah alright.

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    • Polderviking@feddit.nl ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

      My problem was not with Derrick?

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• ameancow@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

  Sadly, people rather get in trouble and make themselves out to be a victim than decide to use some measure of self control and not spout every stupid thing that crosses their mind in their weird little shitty discord channel with their other shitty friends.

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