was the entire “secret” group chat dedicated to making fun of people though? That’s the thing we don’t know, it just seems like a fairly active, long running group chat, with a number of distasteful posts made over time.
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hperrin@lemmy.ca 3 days agoThis was not private. This was a group of assholes laughing behind their friends’ backs at their expense. It was secret, but not private.
KillingTimeItself@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 days ago
hperrin@lemmy.ca 2 days ago
If you have a secret group chat where you make fun of your friends behind their backs, then you’re an awful piece of shit. I don’t care if it’s not solely dedicated to making fun of people. If you do it enough that your friend group ostracizes you when they find out, then you deserve to be ostracized. Why are you defending this behavior? Do you do this?
KillingTimeItself@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 day ago
bro i make fun of my friends in public. I don’t talk to people unless it’s a group. Simple as.
If it’s ok for me to be harsh with people in public, i see no reason to stop being harsh with them in private, assuming it meets those boundaries.
hperrin@lemmy.ca 1 day ago
Then it’s not behind their back. That’s the bad part here. It’s not making fun of your friends, it’s secretly making fun of your friends. That’s the difference between “all in good fun”, and “being an asshole”.
Ilovethebomb@lemm.ee 3 days ago
That is a very pedantic response.
Tuuktuuk@sopuli.xyz 3 days ago
But makes a very big difference. Talking bad things about someone publicly is not okay, and the whistleblower is doing the right thing. Well, mostly. It’s not really cool that now the private messages are shared with even more people!
Talking about anything privately is a private discussion and as such, not a huge problem. Sharing someone’s private messages with a group with more than two or three members is already public to an extent.