Comment on Anon starts talking to a girl

• papertowels@mander.xyz ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

  No, I’m saying to avoid “the majority” of women on there who likely do not share values with you.

  Would you rather actually spend your time to go on a date with them only to find how shallow and materialistic someone is? Or would you rather know in advance to not waste your time?

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  • SoftestSapphic@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

    It feels like you are speaking from the perspective of somebody who is sought instead of those who have to initiate relationships.

    I think the people we are talking about here want any date they can get, and they feel like they have done the things necessary to meet someone, but they dont. Which is what makes them so crazy.

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    • papertowels@mander.xyz ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

      Eh, idk about being sought, but the dating experience did fundamentally change after I felt confident enough to be more worried about what a potential match brought to the table than whether or not I’d get a date. The pool of applicants wasn’t big, but I was happier being solo than with the wrong person.

      For the record, I didn’t down vote you.

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      • SoftestSapphic@lemmy.world ⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

        Eventually people have to settle.

        There is no person who will check all the boxes, and limiting your options too much does mean you will be alone forever.

        These people look at it mathematically, and from that perspective they aren’t wrong.

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