You’re sending our guy on the High Fidelity path. Be careful OP, Cusak thought he wanted the feedback, too.
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casualhippo@sh.itjust.works 1 year ago
If you’re up for it, why not ask your past dates why they think you guys didn’t work out, or what you could work on as a person. People you’ve spent time with will probably give you the most objective take if there was anything other than “we just didn’t mesh”.
whynotzoidberg@lemmy.world 1 year ago
casualhippo@sh.itjust.works 1 year ago
That being said, you need to be able to handle criticism (constructive or not) in order for that conversation to happen and benefit you
CookieOfFortune@lemmy.world 1 year ago
And if you’re the type that does not handle criticism well, don’t expect honest answers. So you should first determine if you are ok at handling criticism.
SadSadSatellite@sh.itjust.works 1 year ago
And if you’re that type, we’ve already found the answer you wanted in the first place.
hoshikarakitaridia@sh.itjust.works 1 year ago
That said, also remember everyone has their emotional baggage so if ppl criticise you, don’t take it at face value eather.
I know, criticism and therefore self-reflection is hard. I’ve been over overcompensating and self optimizing to the point that ppl tell me to start being more confident and basically try do more mistakes. It’s always a balancing act.
ReluctantMuskrat@lemmy.world 1 year ago
And part of his problem might be who he’s chosing to date. Bad partner choices aren’t necessarily going to give you helpful feedback.