This so much. I didn’t grow up dirt poor, but also pretty low class. Now I live in the nice part of town and have a somewhat above average pay. Still miserable. Still the depressed loser I always have been. Just more money and a big house. Though, if I was just barely able to make ends meet, I’d be way more miserable.
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DJKJuicy@sh.itjust.works 1 day ago
Meh. I grew up dirt poor, and I am now what past me would have considered successful.
Funny thing about it, though, I’m still me. I’m that same dirt poor teenager, just older. It didn’t change me like I thought it would.
Absolutely, the lack of money will make you unhappy. Without a doubt. But I’ve never got a 20% raise and felt 20% happier. You’re always gonna be who you are, money or not.
Devanismyname@lemmy.ca 1 day ago
doingthestuff@lemy.lol 1 day ago
Neither my wife or I have been able to afford to go to the dentist in over 20 years. I’ve had a general medical checkup once in that time. We make too much to get free care but not enough to afford care. It absolutely kills me because I work for a nonprofit that provides food and other resources to people in need. They’re always talking about their doctors appointments, procedures etc and I’m like, yeah I don’t get that kind of thing.
Devanismyname@lemmy.ca 1 day ago
I’m in a different country so all that is covered for me.
doingthestuff@lemy.lol 1 day ago
It’s not like the working class can move. My daughter and her UK boyfriend/fiance want to get married but neither would be able to legally work in the other country. If you can’t get a work visa for a technical specialized job, you’re SOL or you try to find under the table work which is becoming more impossible with governments tracking everything.
DJKJuicy@sh.itjust.works 1 day ago
Your basic needs aren’t being met. That is horrible for any human. I’m sorry… I’ve been there.
DJKJuicy@sh.itjust.works 1 day ago
The part that really sucks is you don’t get to really understand this until you’re in your 30s/40s. We spend all this time trying to fill a hole in ourselves that can’t be filled with stuff.
There are people reading this right now who are like “yeah, right”…
Devanismyname@lemmy.ca 1 day ago
Or it could be accomplishments or a relationship. Sometimes problems run deeper than outside stuff.
Lv_InSaNe_vL@lemmy.world 1 day ago
I’ve also heard that this advice really only scales until you hit the cost of living price for your area, which supports your idea.
Its not necessarily “money won’t make you happier”, it’s more “poverty makes you sadder”
DJKJuicy@sh.itjust.works 1 day ago
Yep. Once your basic needs are met and you’re not in poverty, any happiness above that line has to come from within yourself.