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Little Sis,

Since you want to act like an adult and live on your own, I’m glad to help. First step is you clean up your own messes. I will not be your middleman, not because I don’t love you, but because it is not helping you.

If you want to talk about all this, and how best to talk to them, I’m here for you. And please be careful, a lot of people who have done similar things at your age have later regretted it.

Love you, talk to you soon.

Big Bro

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bleistift2@sopuli.xyz ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
She said she’d talk to them afterwards. The way I read it she just wants her parents to not panic because their daughter is gone. This seems reasonable to me.

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- tiramichu@lemm.ee ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
  She could call her parents on the phone and tell them herself, but she doesn’t want to because she knows it will be a difficult conversation.
  
  Therefore she wants bro to have the difficult conversation for her, so she doesn’t have to.
  
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  - gibmiser@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    Which does not bode well for her ability to succeed as an independent adult.
    
    It’s not about being a dick because you think she’s making a mistake, it’s about both pointing out that fact of her avoiding confrontation, and helping her develop the skills for success. If she is not willing to work with him on that, then it’s a pretty unfortunate indicator of how this will all likely play out in the long run.
    
    In other words, Wolf will become her new daddy.
    
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  - bleistift2@sopuli.xyz ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    
    she doesn’t want to because she knows it will be a difficult conversation.
    
    That’s a lot of assuming. If we argue in her favor, then we might assume that her parents might not be the most receptive. This is a sensible assumption on her part. Any parent whose daughter is suddenly missing will be agitated. This state of mind is not conducive to a rational conversation.
    
    So her reaction makes sense: She asks her brother whom she views as a good bearer of news to just tell their parents that she is fine, so they don’t go crazy. After they’ve calmed down, she intends to explain herself.
    
    I think this is extraordinarily good thinking. Calling her parents immediately with the news that she’s gone will just end in a shouting contest. Not telling them at all is an undue burden on them and might have undesirable consequences like involving the police. This girl seems to do her best to have a calm talk. That’s way more than I’ve come to expect from adults.
    
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  - prettybunnys@sh.itjust.works ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    Or shoot them a quick text. It’s easy.
    
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