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Redredme@lemmy.world ⁨11⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

I don’t get this. Y’all should talk to a psychologist. Its a goddamn mobile phone. If you don’t want to use a device’s primary function maybe you should use something else to browse porn.

And if talking to people makes you anxious and makes you feel violated or makes it feel like someone is disrespecting your private bubble…

You should go out more. Without that gd device in your pocket because clearly, obviously to everyone else but you that device is hampering you, limiting you even hurting you.

This is crazy.

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explodicle@sh.itjust.works ⁨4⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
I never wanted a cell phone in the first place. I just needed one when my house burned down. If it were up to me, they would never have existed, and the pay phones would still work. Don’t you remember how nice going to the movies used to be?

Hell yeah I should go out more. While I’m out, I want you to leave a message on my answering machine that I will ignore if it doesn’t start with a number.

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valentinesmith@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨11⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
I think your comment reads quite combative.

I think with the context of the Meme, yes there are some people who call you and you just know its gonna be a huge annoying phone call that you should just avoid and text the person after because some people just wanna talk your ears off.

I dunno if we have to do the: omg millenials/gen alpha is too phone anxious thing.

And sure its called a mobile phone, but as an argument that feels somewhat pedantic nowadays. Primarily its a mobile internet connected computer nowadays I would say. I use the camera/ texting/ social media functions way more than the real phone capabilities. Maybe thats different for you but I don’t think it’s uncommon that its one of the lesser used functions.

Sure if people are too anxious to pick up the phone and it negatively impacts their life they should get help for it. I don’t think we should shame them in that case though. It feels to me like shaming depressed people when they cannot find the energy to shower, which I would similarly feel is inadequate input.

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- abbadon420@lemm.ee ⁨57⁩ ⁨minutes⁩ ago
  Not trying to blame anyone or “omg millenials”, but it’s an actual issue. It’s not just the “fear of phone calls”, but it’s a deeper rooted change in the way we communicate and how it’s becoming less personal and organic. psychology-spot.com/silent-generation-characteris…
  
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- And009@lemmynsfw.com ⁨10⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  I agree with you, they shouldn’t be shamed.
  
  But it’s important for people to understand this is a symptom of deeper rooted issue instead of trying to normalize it. That’ll put undue stress on future generations who won’t understand why this is the norm.
  
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  - rockerface@lemm.ee ⁨10⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
    I’d say phone calls are the normalized issue. It’s a wild concept that I can just immediately go and bother any person I know a phone number of and demand they respond immediately.
    
    I get that back when the real time voice calls were the only option, barring the actual paper mail, it would be more tolerable. But now we have so many alternatives, surely we can normalize using communication methods that suit the situation.
    
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    And009@lemmynsfw.com ⁨8⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
    Yeah true, I wanna be sure how the person reacted instead of guessing and letting my anxiety go wild.
    
    I don’t even like client calls if they switch off the video but at that point we should be able to manage & make global collaborations possible.
    
    Tldr Not wanting to meet people is a downward spiral.
    
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rockerface@lemm.ee ⁨10⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
Just because it’s normalized doesn’t mean it should be. Several decades ago it used to be perfectly normal and polite to smoke in restaurants next to strangers.

Just because making calls is one of the functions of the device in my hands doesn’t mean it’s its primary function.

If you disagree with the take that unplanned phone calls without an emergency are invasive, imagine this comment is a phone call and you need to answer as soon as I post it, otherwise I’ll be quite upset with you not responding.

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