Said person just finds women hot but wouldn’t get jealous nor have sex
otp@sh.itjust.works 1 day ago
If you aren’t attracted to them but you want to date them, what would you end up doing that you wouldn’t do with a friend?
- Be in an exclusive relationship that doesn’t involve sexual activity?
- Get jealous if they hang out with or say they love anyone else?
- Engage in sexual activity but not enjoy it?
AuroraGlamour@lemmy.ml 1 day ago
otp@sh.itjust.works 17 hours ago
What’s the desire to date women, then?
AuroraGlamour@lemmy.ml 16 hours ago
I have no idea, it’s either because she finds women aesthetically pleasing or she thinks finding a woman pretty = being attracted to women even though “I can’t find women that attract me” contradicts being into women.
I have another friend who could imagine dating a woman and also didn’t find them attractive. She was straight.
otp@sh.itjust.works 13 hours ago
I have another friend who could imagine dating a woman and also didn’t find them attractive. She was straight.
I could imagine being a bumblebee, but that doesn’t mean I have any intention of transforming into one or anything! Haha
ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 day ago
I’m not the OP, but their question was pretty much describing me.
For me, it’s about intimacy. I value intimacy. Hugging, kissing, touching, holding hands, sharing moments, laying on the couch together watching TV etc. Those are things that I don’t do with my friends, and aren’t things that I’m looking for from my friends.
Asexual folk have developed language that talks about the way they navigate similar situations. Sex averse, sex neutral and sex positive. So even though I’m not ace, the terms apply in a similar way to my relationships. Using these terms, I would describe myself as sex neutral. Which is to say that I don’t seek it out, and I don’t miss it. Yet, it’s also a very strong form of intimacy, which I value a great deal, and as an expression of intimacy, it’s very much something I’m happy to share with my partner.