Comment on Anon is confused
sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works 2 days agoAnd I think you’re making it out to be easier that it is in the US. It’s not like you just drop by a government building and sign some papers and you’re done, you actually need to go through the effort to separate all your finances. Even a smooth divorce can take a few days, and my understanding is that you can’t file such paperwork drunk since you wouldn’t be “of sound mind” to complete the legal paperwork.
The 6 month waiting period seems to be intended to prevent divorce. Otherwise, why not just a week? Or a month to be generous? Surely that’s enough time for a drunk Finn to sober up (then again, maybe Finns have some epic benders). Send a reminder postcard or something around the time you need to confirm and you’re good. Better yet, require it to be opt out, as in you’re divorced unless you take action. I think remaining married after filing is much more surprising than being divorced.
Dasus@lemmy.world 2 days ago
Not just finances. You need to remember estates, emotional connections to things, friends family and above if the couple has children, custody.
I’m not making it out to be easy in any way. I’m saying that because it’s not easy, it’s a two phase process here (plus all the things that go with divorce, obviously), so for instance you can’t drunkenly decide to divorce legally and then have to settle all the finances and shit even if you ended up making up and getting back together.
I wish I could have stats on how many people apply for a divorce here, how many cancel it, how many confirm it and how many just expire due to the year’s time limit. Ofc societies are pretty different but it’d be interesting to know.
And yes I understand you can’t file the papers drunk but you can get so mad that you’re angry for a week. But if you still disagree in six months, it clearly wasn’t “just” anger but a good reason. Eh, societal differences I guess. Why six months? Idk. It does feel like people can really be “drunk” as in the winter people might lack vitamin D and get the gloomies and drink all the time and if the period is six months, then there’s at least a bit of non-winter at some point. (Although not really but at least more sun.) I don’t know why it’s so long. The law is originally from 1929 iirc. (Been amended several times obviously)
I don’t have an opinion, I’m just stating that as the reasoning.
Like Finland isn’t the most progressive country despite the “good” social security. (“Good” in quotes because I could write a book about that.)
Hell it took until 2023 to repeal the law which mandated that any transitioning trans person had to be sterilised.
I think you’re confusing Finland for a democracy when we’re actually a bureaucracy. Making applications and rules and half of them being fucked is like baked into the system.
Also because of how old this law is, perhaps it is to make it harder for women to leave completely. Idk man. But that’s how it is. Looking at history one would assume it’s something like that. It’s crazy the sick shit societies have done to women to achieve that. Literally hobbling women.
sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works 2 days ago
You can’t here either. You file for divorce, and then you can cancel the process at any time while estates and whatnot are settled. If you end up making up later, get remarried. I’ve known couples who have been remarried three times, it’s not common, but it’s a thing.
I’m guessing Lutheranism has something to do with it.
Wow, that’s truly awful. I thought my state was bad since we had a law on the books until two years ago that allowed guardians to forcibly sterilize their adult children (i.e. if they have a mental disability of some sort), provided they got a court order first (required “medical necessity,” not just “pregnancy is inconvenient”).
They’re the same picture. And that’s usually a good thing, I’d much rather something be inconvenient than impossible.
Dasus@lemmy.world 2 days ago
You can have a huge row and be divorced within a week.
You can’t here.
It’s the same in practice, as in just deciding to leave a person and fuck off and start filing and doing all the finance settling, (but just some local differences obviously) and then in 6-12 months you have to confirm it.
I’m not joking about Finland being a bureaucracy, quite literally. Nation filled with rulewhores, and mostly bigots making those rules, because due to the rules no-one gets in power who should and because there’s so many rules, nothing gets done because it’s not in full accordance with every single rule.
Finland is a really easy place to live in in terms of social security and whatnot, but not the best in terms of acceptance of differences or having any open mind in general. Or emotions, for that matter. Closed hearts, closed minds. Just blindly read the rules, or even just pretend to. I once actually quoted the law an government office said they based their decision on and pitily admitted I may be correct but that due to “overall analysis” decision will still be to deny my application.
I could literally write a few books on it.
sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works 2 days ago
Lol. Maybe it’s worse there, but that doesn’t mean it’s great here. I wish we could collectively find a happy medium where things are somewhat efficient while still having a reasonable safety net.