If finances also are separate it can be very quick
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sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works 3 days agoIt is though, if it’s amicable. It only gets complicated if you disagree on who gets what.
If there aren’t kids or pets involved, just hire an arbiter and be done with it in a day.
Natanael@infosec.pub 3 days ago
sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works 3 days ago
That depends on the laws in your area though. In some areas, separate accounts mean something, whereas in others, any income after marriage is considered combined, regardless of who owns the accounts.
That said, if it’s amicable, it’s fast regardless. Just get a third party to work out the details and it’ll be fast.
Dasus@lemmy.world 2 days ago
Depends on where you live.
In Finland you have to be officially separated for 6 months before you can get a divorce.
sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works 2 days ago
Wow, that’s awful. Why can’t two consenting adults dissolve their union immediately? Why wait?
Dasus@lemmy.world 2 days ago
Probably because no-one in Finland would be married anymore; get drunk on the weekend and divorce on the spot.
Generally it’s just like those annoying “are you SURE you want to perform this action” prompts.
Honestly I’ve no opinion on this but as people have pointed out marriage is a financial union as well, which is what actually makes the split challenging. Although the split would be even more challenging if you weren’t married but still shared a lot of stuff.
Say for instance you’ve used only x card to pay for all furniture. While you both actually use the card, it’s in her name and now she owns everything bought with it if you’re not married, etc etc
sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works 2 days ago
In the US we solve this one of two ways, depending on the state:
- everything earned/purchased during the marriage is jointly owned, 50/50
- things are only jointly owned if both parties’ names are on it
Things from before marriage are usually separate, provided the parties can show they’ve kept them separate (i.e. if you got an inheritance before marriage and never shared it with the spouse).
If the divorce is amicable, then it’s generally pretty smooth, regardless of what the local law is, since you just hire a mutually agreeable arbiter to value and distribute things. It only gets complicated when parties disagree about who gets what (usually emotional attachment), and also disagree about what things should be worth.
In any case, though, waiting 6 months doesn’t make that process easier, it likely just discourages people from bothering with the divorce. Do you really want to deal with joint assets for 6 months? Who lives in the house? Who drives the cars? All of that should be settled as quickly as possible instead of sitting in limbo for half a year.
Perhapsjustsniffit@lemmy.ca 3 days ago
I’ve been in this situation. Amicable. Split evenly. No kids. A half hour with my buddy who is a lawyer to sign papers and done.