When I was about your age, I got my first girlfriend pregnant. I was homeschooled and sex education was not part of the curriculum; I had no understanding of women’s biology and she mislead me about when and how pregnancy was possible. I tend to think of this as her tricking me into it, as she was not quiet about her fascination with motherhood, but it’s true that I could and should have done more to educate myself about the whole process before engaging in it.
Anyway, we ended up giving the progeny up for adoption, but I maintain contact with him (and the family when he understandably doesn’t want to talk to me). He turned eighteen this month.
I was going to make a comment about how young thirty-six seemed to be to have offspring capable of posting on lemmy (I wasn’t even born until my parents were both in their forties) (no moral judgement here BTW!), but then I realized I’m sort of exactly in that situation. The ages are a little different, but pretty close, and I can assure you it’s shocking from the other side as well.
Yeah dude, it’s rough having a kid young. Shits stressful, less support when your younger. None of your friends are having kids at that age so it’s tough making friends with people way older than you just so your kid has people to play with.
If it helps; my dad was mid 40s when I was born. We have a great relationship. He still would take time to play catch with me and all the general dad things despite being older.
angelordevil@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
toynbee@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
When I was about your age, I got my first girlfriend pregnant. I was homeschooled and sex education was not part of the curriculum; I had no understanding of women’s biology and she mislead me about when and how pregnancy was possible. I tend to think of this as her tricking me into it, as she was not quiet about her fascination with motherhood, but it’s true that I could and should have done more to educate myself about the whole process before engaging in it.
Anyway, we ended up giving the progeny up for adoption, but I maintain contact with him (and the family when he understandably doesn’t want to talk to me). He turned eighteen this month.
I was going to make a comment about how young thirty-six seemed to be to have offspring capable of posting on lemmy (I wasn’t even born until my parents were both in their forties) (no moral judgement here BTW!), but then I realized I’m sort of exactly in that situation. The ages are a little different, but pretty close, and I can assure you it’s shocking from the other side as well.
SubArcticTundra@lemmy.ml 5 weeks ago
He did have you super early imo
cannedtuna@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
Yeah dude, it’s rough having a kid young. Shits stressful, less support when your younger. None of your friends are having kids at that age so it’s tough making friends with people way older than you just so your kid has people to play with.
angelordevil@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
sexy_peach@feddit.org 5 weeks ago
Omg he must be amazing if he did that
Shaggy1050@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
If it helps; my dad was mid 40s when I was born. We have a great relationship. He still would take time to play catch with me and all the general dad things despite being older.