The only time I find it necessary is when dating someone, labels make things confusing
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Iapar@feddit.org 1 month ago
I don’t get why labels are so important to people.
If other people label you, they think you have to act a certain way.
If you label yourself, you think you have to act a certain way.
“I like what I like” why does it have to be more complicated than that?
voytek709@lemmy.ca 1 month ago
Iapar@feddit.org 1 month ago
Is it though? How?
voytek709@lemmy.ca 1 month ago
Well, I mean in the context of not having homophobic people interested in you or a woman having in her profile that she’s, for example, a lesbian, so other sapphic women will see it and not just wonder if she’s straight or not.
tiefling@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 month ago
Most labels are very loose, and they help define some people define their own identity and find others who feel similarly
AuroraGlamour@lemmy.ml 1 month ago
That makes sense
Toes@ani.social 1 month ago
But if you want a vague label. There’s heteroflexible / homoflexible.
Zero22xx@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 month ago
Labels are useful for when you’re questioning things and looking for where you belong in the world. They provide key words that can lead you to more information and communities of more people like you. This user is just looking for where they belong without feeling like an imposter or fraud.
I do agree that people shouldn’t hang on labels and revolve everything around labels though. They’re tools and guidelines but ultimately only the individual can define how they really feel and who they really are.
Iapar@feddit.org 1 month ago
I agree with you that it is useful in the context of finding information.
But the way people use them seems more like a prison then a guideline.