Oh, but is it not better to not have to do housework? If you could hire one, wouldn’t that be preferrable?
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myrrh@ttrpg.network 8 months ago
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galanthus@lemmy.world 8 months ago
RagingRobot@lemmy.world 8 months ago
We hired a maid to come clean once. I was so ashamed that I cleaned for 2 days before they came. I still feel gross. I’m so sorry lol
galanthus@lemmy.world 8 months ago
Oh, that is sweet. I suppose I kind of get the reason why you did feel ashamed, but I do not think this way generally. I might feel pity for someone like that, but hardly guilt, since if they took the job out of self interest, it would be worse for them if I didn’t offer it. The only thing you can do to help them then is give them the money they want without making any demands of them, but all wage labour functions in such a way, that it offers a monetary reward for time and labour, it is hardly worse to work as a maid than to work in a factory. If you want to do charity, you do not have to fire your maid.
I am not quite sure: did you feel guilty because you was uncomfortable with hiring another person to do your bidding, or because you thought it was excessive to hire them and so it is wrong because making someone work to fulfil such an unnecessary need is unethical?
But I do not mean to say you were wrong to feel guilty about this. I am just sharing my thoughts on it, and I think that your sentiment was noble, in a way.
Kacarott@aussie.zone 8 months ago
If you have the wealth to afford a housemaid, then any way of spreading that wealth to others in a non-manipulative way is good.
galanthus@lemmy.world 8 months ago
I see your point, but asking someone to value someone over themselves in such a way is a bit much. Charity to such a degree(giving away your money whenever you want to spend it on unnecessary labour/goods) is for saints.
A lifestyle of bourgeois decadence is something that is difficult to refuse. Are you sure you would be able to?
chicken@lemmy.dbzer0.com 8 months ago
No, why would I want someone I only have a business relationship with in my house touching my stuff?
psx_crab@lemmy.zip 8 months ago
My uncle and aunt have one for years, they’re also old and need someone to take care of the daily chores, and treat their housemaid good to the point she refused to go back to her country. Is it a redflag? Not sure about you, but it isn’t in my book.